Tõnn Sarv

How to be

A Guide to Spiritual Development

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How to be good? How to be right?

How to be so that there is no need to worry that there would be no problems, no inconvenience or suffering?

These questions can be answered. Can be answered for a long time but will also be brief. The short answer is:

Don’t take anything personally.

If you want a longer answer, go further.

Table of Contents

How to become better 6
The power of way 8
The missing is useful 12
Mind the gap 15
Why the truth? 18
Where you look, that’s where you go 20
But that’s not all 23
A short study of consciousness 25
Story of geese 29
Three old men 34
Fair play and good will 36
Life not fair 38
Great indifference 43
Depends on question 45
There are inconveniences in life 47
There is a reason 50
You, yourself 53
Needs and intentions 57
Enough is enough! 59
How to die 63
How it’s going 66
Can get rid of this reason 69
Five obstacles 72
Greed 74
Contempt 75
Laziness 78
Unrest 80
Suspicion 82
Do what you want 84
Nothing to do 86
Matrix 89
Being in the moment 93
Everything is possible 96
No matter 98
It’s not all a miracle. 99
There’s a difference 103
Mind can be developed 105
What is Enlightenment? 108
The peculiarity of Humans 110
There is a method to get rid of this 113
How to view 115
How to intend 118
How to speak 121
How to operate 124
How to set up life 126
How to try 128
How to understand 131
How to proceed 136
Further reading 138

How to become better

No one’s perfect, everyone makes mistakes. It’s not that I’m the one that’s right and honest, and everyone else is guilty, disgusting and ugly, lying and cheating.
Oh, no, I’m sure I’ve made mistakes too. Surely someone has had to suffer for me, to offend, to depend on me, to endure the losses, and perhaps so I didn’t understand it myself. Who, then, will have to say such a thing in hindsight; rather, he holds a fist in his pocket and when the opportunity comes, he pays.
Yeah, it’s all about people. You smile and they are smiling, you forgive me, and I forgive you, I apologise and they apologise to me.
Well, it sounds good, but it doesn’t get any better if we get better, as everyone knows, at least once in a lifetime. You do good for someone, but there’s no way out of it, maybe you will abused. And the desire to get better disappears, for what if it doesn’t work and nobody cares about it.
The rigidity and maliciousness of the people are beset, and this can be mutually grating. It’s not going to make any difference, it’ll just get worse and that’s all the evil and the rigidity keeps deepening.
Yet there are a number of ways to come out of this vicious circle. It is enough for the initiative to alleviate your own self-sustaining self-justifications. Why should I be right about everything? How can it be so that everyone can be wrong, not me?
Yeah, well, if it’s enough to admit that I can be stupid in some things, it’s a very big step in the right direction.
But what’s stopping it? Fear, fright, and false pride. Like if I only dared to admit I was lost, I would lose something like myself, break my peace of mind.
Actually, it is, of course, the opposite. The less we justify ourselves, the more lenient we approach ourselves, the more peaceful we are, the peace of mind coming.
And acknowledging your own mistakes is only the first step. Because if I’ve been seen to do something wrong once, it’s probably happened several times. They’re not only misguided by the doing, the undone, the neglected, the lack of attention, forgetting may be quite a mistake. Cheating on someone’s hopes may sometimes be a crime.
There’s already a way to think about what’s been my greatest mistake or error? Or, perhaps even better asking, what has been my worst act, the greatest fault? How many are those who have had to suffer for me?
You don’t have to start looking for self-justifications again, you don’t have to have a sense of regret or blame yourself. It’s enough to admit it to yourself, to understand that yes, I was wrong, I did the wrong thing, I did the suffering. You don’t have to stay on your knees, to suffer for it, to blame yourself and to punish, to apologise and to excuse. There’s nothing more you can do for it anyway, and you can’t change it.
These are the first steps to get better: understanding, realisation, recognising them. There will be a release from there, and there will be the following, and it may eventually become so far that there will be more confidence, friendliness, love, joy and even happiness.
Of course, it would be good if other people knew about it. Freely, you can share such things with closest friends, confess, talk from your heart. Maybe, for example, in the evening before the sleep, what did I do wrong today, what did I miss?
But it can also be made public. There are all kinds of Internet pages and forums, Facebook and what’s all. You don’t have to brag or grumble, hate and put away with success. There may also be recognition and understanding, clearly and sincerely under their name, or anonymously, as it may be better suited to anyone. One can apologise, can thank and, of course, read other similar testimonies.
That’s how you get better.

The power of way

We’re all on the way, but we’re built so we can’t see it. We don’t know what the future will bring, we can only imagine it, based on our own experiences and memories. Time is moving unilaterally for us, against us. Arriving is only seen when it has already arrived, we only see what is already in hand and over, we know what has been and on the basis of this knowledge we are also trying to foresee the future and to decide properly. Alas, mostly it doesn’t work.

A. Alliksaar: What will come and what I wish is horribly different.

In the future, it may not be the same as it has been so far. We know that, but yet we believe that perhaps there will still be in the same way as we are accustomed to and adapted. In case of course, we will look at horoscopes and other predictions, not that we really believe them, but still. Maybe something’s changing, maybe something’s going to happen, maybe we should do something differently, maybe that’s what someone else has thought. And then maybe we’ll do something that we wouldn’t have done, change something that might not have been worth the change.

Lao-zi:

Foresight is a blossom on the way,
But also the beginning of stupidity.

It’s like we’re sitting in a moving vehicle, but in the direction of the back. We only see the part of the road that has already been passed. We have a wheel with which we can change the direction of our movement, something like ourselves, it is the freedom of our will, but we will still be able to decide on the basis of the path that has already been passed, only by the past. For that, our own experiences, lessons learned, memories, count. If the current path of life is more or less smooth, we believe that we can go ahead without much concern, without altering anything, not turning the wheel.
But how do we know that? Maybe there’s a chuck in front of the way, maybe it’s gonna end up right now or turns somewhere? We don’t foresee it and we’re gonna get a little worried.

Lao-zi:

Deviation is feared
to whom it seems too easy.

But on the contrary, if there seems to be a bad way, everything is a misery, we want to start changing something, we start struggling, looking for new directions, rethinking. In fact, both are, as good as bad roads, but our own perceptions, they don’t need to be taken seriously, there’s no need to worry about them.

Lao-zi:

A least wisdom is enough
to stay on the big way.

Sometimes it seems like we’ve gone hopelessly with our life, actually. We are tackled, confused, misunderstanding, every move hurts, everything is wrong, everything is bad. But we know there’s gotta be a good and right way somewhere, all you need to do is get there.
What to do? Can you keep yourself in quietly until we get out of nowhere, or try to change the direction again in hopes that maybe we can get on the path with less trouble? Nobody knows, but there’s always something left.

Lao-zi:

Way vanish, might remains.

There are many of ways, some are longer, some are more obsolete, some are more awkward, some are branching, some go into a thicket. We feel it all on the way. Some of the roads are such as if they don’t feel or notice, some of them are so troubled that they’re gonna torture us. No way really leads anywhere, the way itself is important.

Lao-zi:

Way is like a stream
that takes the river to the sea.

How do you find the right and good way? How are you going to be the most pleasant?

Lao-zi:

Way won’t do anything.
And nothing remains undone.
The right ways have a light, very fragile, very simple and very natural draught for us.

Lao-zi:

Way holds the wayfarer.

It’s so delicate that it isn’t right.

Lao-zi:

In the right way there is no call.
Yet they are coming.

You can’t hear it when you crack in a chuck and want to get out of every price.

Lao-zi:

Way has no fight.
Way has no taste.

It may be a secret, but that’s how it is: no need to see the way, can be trusted, can be released from the wheel.

Lao-zi:

Calming down is easy to hold.
The unpredictable is easy to do.
Clarity and peace will set up all.

Take the time off, the right way may just be close, the right way is easy.

Lao-zi:

The way is led by itself.

Nothing needs to be done.

On the right way,
No benefit nor damage.

The missing is useful

There are things that may never seen to be enough, still would like to have more and more: sex and money, sweets, chocolate or ice cream, bubble bath and champagne, sea views and luxury yachts, parties and alcohol plus drugs, attention and compassion, care and acknowledgement, honour and praise, compliments, forever.
These were as if these were the most important, the highest targets and goals, the ultimate and final happiness to try. Whether it’s money, power, sex or whatever. That all women should want me, all men should adore me.
It’s a continuous willingness, hunger and thirst, feeling of everlasting shortage. There’s never enough, never be satisfied, still needed more and more.
But look at the cactus, for example. He grows somewhere between stones and sand, in the hot climate, dry, constant water shortage, but he lives and has lived like this for hundreds of millions of years.
His construction, his tissues and cells have been shaped just to stay alive despite the dryness. Evaporation is minimal. He can also be alive for a very long time without getting any water. But if he’s gonna get some water, he’s gonna collect it, keep it because he doesn’t know when it’s going to happen again.
What kind of life is it, you could ask, with such eternal water scarcity. But just try to “do good” to him, to flood his place with water, and he’s going to die. Although the water is vital to both him and all living organisms, the cactus cannot survive in that abundance. His life is constant thirst, constant water shortage, because only that way he can live.
Some could say he lived in constant suffering. It would sound rather banal to that cactus, but in the world of people it has a religious meaning. It’s said that life must be suffering. You could think about that.
Why is it that the availability of alcohol and other drugs is limited? Why are there so many restrictions and taboos around sex? Why does the legislative, judicial and executive power have to be separated and limited? Why can’t an official offer any benefits to their relatives and friends? Why is there a lack of money all the time?
Of course, so we don’t die like that cactus in the water. There must be a lack of something to be alive, life must be suffering in that sense and perhaps it would be better if we don’t talk about some things, not remember, if we don’t know something at all.
Why are we eating? Not because our organism needs nutrients, proteins, carbohydrates or fat? Any vitamins, micro-elements or calories so that we can’t live without eating? Of course not. We don’t really need to eat, at least not as much as we tend to do it, nor do we need to drink, use alcohol or other good stuff.
Eating is not a life issue, at least not for us, at least not in the world we live in right now. We don’t die if we don’t eat anything all day, even a week of starvation won’t kill. And the same goes for all kinds of “wanting”. We don’t have to want everything possible and don’t have to worry about anything you don’t get. The less you want, the better.
We eat in particular to feed our soul. Our soul is hungry, our soul is in trouble, and eating helps, makes the mood better, calming and relieving. In fact, there is very little needed.
He needs to feel some taste, salty, bitter, sour, sweet, how ever. He needs to feel something raging under his teeth, he wants something crunchy. Diet has nothing to do with it. If his chips have become moisture and softy, they will no longer be good, although they are still composed of the same nutrients. Or he wants something relentless or something cold or something bubbling in his mouth. But all he needs is for a moment, he’s going over, that’s what he needs, he’s not really needed anymore.
But meeting their spiritual needs will trigger metabolic events in our body. Our organism feels like it’s starting to nurtured, and then we’re going to eat, even though we don’t really need it anymore. The spiritual necessity, which forced us to crunch the miserable crunches, was already satisfied, but we are munching on and that is how we are getting fat.
Eating is not necessary to survive, but we want, we insist, we need to eat, all the time, because we are sick, our soul is sick, our spirit is sick, we are mentally sick, in a serious sense.
If we can’t deal with our life, if we don’t know how to live, if we don’t get what will help us, if we’re sad, if we’re afraid, if we hate, we’re jealous, we don’t tolerate, we’re offended, then we need a consolation, then we need recognition, justification, support. And that’s why we eat, eating helps.
Of course, it’s a scam, of course it’s not a necessity. You won’t die if you don’t get those chips right now, just that ice cream, that chocolate. You’re like a little kid, you want and right now and right here, because it’s so important to you, it’s so important, it’s like it’s all about it.
But who makes you consume them? You’re still with your own soul and desperation, you’re the one who is missing something and by knowing what is missing could be useful.

Lao-zi:

Wishes bring evil.
Unrest brings trouble.
Wanting brings misery.

Knowing what’s enough,
Then that’s enough.

Mind the gap

Whoever has been driving the London underground, it should be remembered by a message to be repeated from all the loudspeakers at the arrival of the train: “Mind the gap.”
“Notice the space” between the train and the platform you’re stepping onto, that’s all. Just a friendly warning and actually overarching because there’s no big gap between, you get over it, so you don’t notice. But such a warning, especially in the loudspeaker and multiple audible, remains to be remembered as if it was something important. And if you’ve heard this day by day, year-on-year, maybe thousands of times in exactly the same manner, it will be especially remembered.
It is no wonder that this phrase is on T-shirts in the souvenir stores in London, that so has the titled albums, films, novels, registered companies, it has been used in lyrics, video games, etc.
The gap is, in fact, both “gap” and “space”, emptiness, something that isn’t. And you have a recalling or reminding of this non-existent. Notice the emptiness, notice what isn’t. It’s pretty deep, isn’t it? And not only in the sense that you can step down there accidentally and get hurt. Inevitably, there’s more.
What creates music? – Soundings? Oh no. The most meaningful parts of the music are pauses, silence, as some voice is silent, some of the instruments don’t make a voice, the time that comes with it, the expectation, the tension. If you don’t understand it before, at least at the end of the performance, while everything is sounded, what was supposed to sound, the moment before the applause, it’s the most powerful, most important. It’s all said, there’s nothing left. “Emptiness”, isn’t it? Only then, in this mysterious silence, you know what it was all about and what everything meant.
Or in art. No miscellaneous objects, whether they spatial or surface, coloured or moving, are important. Well, of course they are, but they are to create meaning to what is between them, to what is not: for shadows, space, air, skipping and emptiness.
Nor in the architecture of important buildings, houses, walls… Oh no, what is between them and what is going to happen in them. How there in them can be, how they look, how to go through them and pass through, all that is not: room, emptiness, hollow, gap.

Lao-zi:

Spokes keep the wheel together.
But the hole in the centre of it
makes it useful.

A vessel is formed from the clay.
But the hollow within it
makes it useful.

Or, for example, there is some meeting, council, conference, sitting, presentation. Somebody talks, someone takes the word, and there are the settlements, agenda, moderator, manager, tight time full of events, saturated data, information …
But then there will be a break. And then, at this time of break, if something formal and matter-of-fact is not happening, just at that time, if no one has to do anything anymore, say, talk, perform — just then, the most important events are happening. People interact with each other, comment on situations, throw jokes, exchange thoughts, realise, understand, reach conclusions and conclude agreements and ties.
The room is open, empty, and it inspires. Waiting is an important, right moment hit just this interim period if nothing happens. Notice the emptiness. Mind the gap. What’s important is what isn’t.
A pretty good mind-development practice or meditation is to look at the emptiness, focus on emptiness, wherever. We see only what we are looking at, and we look at what has some significance for us, which offers interest. But we may look different and see other things.
For example, some bush, a jumper, a forest, a passage of leaves, branches, stems, where there is nothing interesting. But you look and find out what’s all between it. This empty space, where there is nothing, but where is the air moving, which moves it all, where flying flies, mosquitos, bees, butterflies and birds, where the spiders are spreading their webs, hum of insects and various smells, spreading pollen grains and mushrooms, where the leaves and seeds are falling.
Right there, in that emptiness, in that air, it’s going to be life, it’s real, it’s just that emptiness that unites everyone. You also participated in it with your every breath, breathing in part of it, breathing out your part. You can’t live without breathing, no one can, and that’s why everyone is in connection through the air, through what you don’t even notice.
When they breathe, they smell, and it’s not insignificant. All the smells that we cycle through have been sent to someone, come up somewhere, spread, including those that we may not feel, but what will affect us in one way or another. We are totally defenceless in front of what we breathe in, we have no slightest idea of how this affects us, how it changes our lives and decisions, our behaviour, moves, how the almost unperceived smell can make us want something, do something, move somewhere, get away from somewhere.
But vice versa. With everything we breathe out, we give the world a signal of what’s happening to us, what’s in us. Everything in us is flowing in our blood and getting into our lungs and being breathed out of there. We can’t hide it anyhow. The dogs and too many other animals feel and understand our breath. Our loved ones are inhaling what we have breathed out, we are in touch with them, we all are in touch, and the air ocean is a common home for all of us.
And there are not just smells. Through air, through the same emptiness as if not, the voices are spreading. And not only sounds of the woods or songs of birds, but also quite clear signs of meaning to us, someone said, and the words and phrases we hear, which could make us react in very involuntary ways.
In the same emptiness, the light, which lets us see everything that fills this emptiness, also lets you see the letters that make up the words and statements that have the meaning for us, which may again make us react.
There come are also touches from the same emptiness. We all feel clothes on our skin all the time, but there are also hugs, handshake, shoulder patches, pokes, kisses, lashes, foot “strokes”, various tastes, variations of exciting, chills, tickles, desires, and more.
All this comes from there, which is not, perhaps, of the emptiness that could be noticed sometimes.
Maybe it’s all empty.

Why the truth?

“Not all people need to know all things,” always loved to mention one of my good friends and companions, and it still comes to mind when someone speaks about honesty, frankness, pure spirit of the soul, the absolute trust and everything like that. Speaking the truth can cause much more suffering than not speaking. The silencing of some things, or even lenient lie may be much more appropriate and polite.
We know thousands of things that really aren’t someone’s thing and can’t be. Someone’s birth secret, adoption, the personality of the past intimate partner, someone’s heavy illness, etc. Sometimes somebody trusts secrets to you, and you have to promise that you won’t tell anyone about it. Same story.
But oh, how would you like to share such things. To discuss with someone and, of course, get the promise that he or she wouldn’t tell anyone about it in turn. It’s easy to see how secrets spread like that.
The media has, of course, largely amplified this mentality, the private life of every single person will be slammed down, for all viewing and reviewing. Pretty creepy. And it’s still being justified that people want to know…
Well, maybe that’s what they want, but do they necessarily? There must be few things that necessarily need to know.
Better to live and let others be unaware than burden themselves and others with unnecessary knowledge. Ripping off the curtain, getting the truth naked may well be sold, but what does it give and where does it lead? Knowing where: suspicion, distrust, uncertainty.
The knowledge is needed to use. Useless knowledge only burdens, stirring and hurting.
Don’t need to know all things, can’t understand everything, and can’t keep up with everything all the time. It’s not possible anyway. Anyway, this is an illusion, an imagination, temporary and transient. Still, something remains unknown, concealed, and it all changes all the time. No much benefits about such knowledge.
In fact, there are very few things that really need to know, what needs to be understood and what needs to be considered. You don’t need to know how many crimps are on the beer bottle cap or what is the capital of Burkina Faso or how many angstroms is a yellow line of cadmium. These are useless knowledge to most.
Nor does it matter what you need to care about or worry about. It doesn’t matter what you need to have, want or achieve. You don’t have to find out who you really are, what’s your destiny or who you might have been in the previous life, which are your special qualities or where you really should belong. These are questions of faith, perceptions, wishes and willingness; they all arise from the importance of ourselves, wanting to be somehow special, necessary and right. Can live, don’t have to worry. There’s one life, to live.
But fine. Surely there are people who also need some secret knowledge, believing that everything is not all the way it seems, that in fact there are conspiracy and secret observers and that in fact we are only being manipulated, we are being lied to. That’s how you get really nervous.

“What is truth?” retorted Pilate. (John 18:38)

Yeah, sometimes you’re lied to, but you’re gonna listen to it, smile, and maybe lie back. The both know that this is not true, but it is yet to be reconciled and lived happily. That’s the way it is, it’s a courtesy that doesn’t pay anything. It’s what they say, what it looks like, a smile. The truth can be somewhere, but it’s not being investigated, the knowledge of it is no use, and it’s not possible to know everything, to understand everything.
Sometimes they talk about the arrival of a post-truth era. Why not. Maybe someday we will see the protrusions and the seekers of the final truths with the same kind of grin as we look at the believers in the fairy tales.
You don’t have to do anything, you don’t need anything. Everything can’t be found out, it doesn’t have to be understood. Rather, it may gradually get rid of excessive things, desires and thoughts. You can forget the useless knowledge and the old beliefs. Can be taken freely. You don’t have to have anything or anyone, you don’t have to be anyone at all.

Where you look, that’s where you go

You remember how you used to ride a bicycle. It pulls the cock hard at first, before you can start driving with it more or less. But then there will be a new trouble — all the time it will still drive into the holes and the end of the stones where you don’t want it to drive.
And why? Because you don’t want to drive them, you’re afraid of them and that’s why you’re staring at them. But where you look, that’s where you go.
We all fear sometimes, and sometimes even more. We often don’t like a lot of things. At the same time, but we also like a lot of things, we want a lot of things, we desire, we want, we believe, we hope. And we are saddened because we can’t get these pleasant things, they don’t get to us. We tend to come up with the bad things we’re afraid of.
And why? Because we’re looking at more of those things we don’t like, what we’re afraid of, what’s irritating us and we’re going to hit them. You drive where you look, that’s how simple it is. What you’re thinking, that’s what you get; what you’re afraid of is coming.
To the healer comes the one who is not well, who is broken or at least thinks he is broken. If you admit that you’re not okay, you not. To the smart comes the one who isn’t smart, who’s stupid or at least thinks he’s stupid. If you admit you’re not smart, you aren’t. Who could fix your brokenness or get you out of stupidity? No one. They can only help you to find out that you’re not broken, you’re not stupid.
Nor did Jesus exacerbate the paralysis, oh no, he said:

“Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” (John 5:8)

Every living being can be a God, Guru or Master. The more we love them, the more we get them. No more needed!

J. Lennon: All You Need Is Love.

Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? (1 Corinthians 3:16).

Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me. (Matthew 25:40.)

Whatever happens, it’s gonna happen to you; whatever you think about it, that’s what happens right now, at the very moment. No one or nothing is separate, before or after; everything is now, here and now, there is nothing more.
In that sense, it doesn’t matter if you suffer or somebody suffers because of you, whether you get hurt or you hurt. If you hurt somebody, you make someone suffer, you suffer and you get hurt. And similarly, your suffering and pain are everyone’s pain and suffering. Everything that is done to you, it is done to anyone, you are not the only or special.

J. Donne: And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee…

God is talking to us or through us. Or we speak to him or through him, because of him. It doesn’t matter, because we’re all one, both with him and with us as we all together, you and me, us and them. Pick up the rock — there you are. Hit the log in half — there he is.
Can’t breathe in all the time, can’t live all the time, sometimes you gotta die. You can’t die if you haven’t lived and you can’t live if you don’t die. We don’t need to think we’re much smarter than anyone. Let everyone deal with their own things, no need to think that someone is sick or foolish, needs treatment or teaching.
If anybody asks, the advice may be given, which would be right or better suited, but these are just advices and recommendations, nothing else. No need to prohibit or to order, there’s no need to promise anything. We can’t afford anything. It is better to fulfil the promises before we have given them.
You can’t think that anyone would be any better or smarter or more important. Opinions are many, knowledge is many, the means are many, some are functional, some not, some are beneficial, some of them not. And what then? Everything can be, everything can, but nothing needs to be done.
A person is smart and healthy in nature, but he can think himself stupid and sick. You’re not who you were a year ago or ten years ago, you changed. What mattered to you may no longer fit. And the other way. The one you were suited to yesterday, you may no longer be fit and necessary today.
No one can be blamed for the change; what is important is how we can and can’t go with the changes, continue to be consistent with them, adapt to them, harmonise; still better, be better — that counts.
This is also talked about in other words. Talk about waves, vibration, oscillations, energy levels, tuning, and yes, it’s the same. Still, there is a need to re-set up; still, there is a need to go with the changes and change yourself, all the time. There is no, nor can there be anything permanent.
Sometimes it doesn’t come to mind. Being held up is not willingness to change and to be bothered with others and with the world affairs. But once again, you get upset because you’re not what you’ve been thought of anymore.
Why complain and offend because of how something has changed, is no longer what it should be like? Why should something be the way you just remembered? What does it matter?
These are misunderstandings that arise between movement and stationary, friction that fuels the passion up, drives hot.
And here comes the need to fit, to set up, to be in line again, to be better. Not to fear or despise, but to look where you want to get.
You don’t have to hold on, you can let go.
But how?
This is a good question and here comes a good suggestion:
Be Calm.
That doesn’t mean you should be happy with everything. That doesn’t mean you should let all things happen. You’re calm if you don’t get involved in everything what’s going on. If you don’t judge or compare, if you don’t fear or want anything, if you don’t contempt anything. You are in your contempt, pain and suffering. Peace can only be in you.
It’s the only thing you can achieve, it’s the only thing you can feel. For others, you don’t know anything, others can’t be influenced, others don’t matter, what only counts is your peace.
Stay calm. It’s very important. Don’t be afraid, don’t worry, look where you want to get.
Where you look, that’s where you go.

But that’s not all

If anything can be called “reality”, maybe just what you see at this moment, what you hear, feel, just now. Everything else you’ve seen before, heard, experienced; what you’ve thought or considered; what you’ve been told or shown, or what you’ve read — is no longer a “reality”, but just your memories of something. Your dreams, intentions and plans aren’t a reality. Nor do all your wishes, desires, deliberations, views, opinions or assessments have anything to do with reality.
It is also limited to what could be called reality, but the extent of your own vision, hearing and sensing at the moment. Every time you move your eyes, the “reality” is about to change. And you see, and you can only hear what’s important to you at this moment, with some point for you, with some kind of meaning.
Hundreds of billions of creatures see, hear, feel different “realities” at the same moment, and yours is only one of these and could not be more real or more adequate.
What gives you the assurance that your reality is the only one and right and adequate one? That which your friend is wrong about, your neighbour getting all wrong. Don’t forget about your baby or your cat. How is your reality somehow better or more righteous than your cat’s? Your cat doesn’t worry about it, he’s just, he doesn’t have any illusions, he doesn’t pretend. Yet he thinks and he has consciousness.
Words, thoughts, assessments, opinions, perceptions, illusions are those that make us unhappy. But what the world famous teachers recommend?
Free yourself from illusions, free from opinions and assessments, free from words and names. Don’t worry, don’t bother, live in the moment. All that’s happening, and everything that comes is right and useful and valuable for you. There is no need to fight or to be against, to ask, to riot or to do anything. Be calm, “worry-less”, and comfortable. It’s all the way it seems to you. Be thankful, take it, accept it, and be happy.
But you think you know, and that what you know is real, that’s right and true. Maybe you even think you should fight for it, so everyone else knows the same way and gets to know as you? Where have you taken it, how this kind of crazy idea has come to you? How can you be so sure?
You’ve given yourself the fortress, that’s you. You know, you think, and that’s all you’ve got: your ego, your “me”. If you didn’t have that confidence, you’d go crazy, if your mind had to lose the only support, the only link to the so-called reality in which he thought he is acting. This anchor, this self-censorship, this confidence, this egoism, if so may say, is needed. It holds life and helps to live, it helps to cope, to act and achieve.
You’ve done all this, you’re the ultimate reality, pure truth.
Nothing has any meaning or value or sense, until we have not yet assigned these meanings and values to something, until we have not yet committed ourselves to it.

A short study of consciousness

We cannot define ourselves, or our mind, or our consciousness. These things can only be described by comparisons, metaphors.
Your consciousness is not you. Consciousness is an environment in which the mind can be appear, or even better to say, consciousness is what you appear in.
Consciousness is a tool, a function, it’s like a field, a potential. It’s like a water surface, able to wave. In terms of consciousness, we feel waves as movements in the mind. Its waves can form temporary or persistent shapes and patterns. That’s what we’re going to consider ourselves as ourselves, or whatever.
These shapes and patterns are formed by various sensations, perceptions and imagery which enter into the mind through mind doors or are created by the mind itself. That’s all we see all the time, hear, read, feel, smell, think. These are all the things that “happen”. They’re like winds that make water wave.
There are moving waves, there are regular waves, there are constant waves moving in the same direction, there are circular waves from one point, come up with the rise and crack, the straw and the ripples, foam and squirrels, storms and hurricanes. There are also standing waves that take a more definite shape and form, and which could persist quite a long time like that. As conceptions, they may be called beliefs, principles, definite attitudes or worldview, which, in summary, may also be considered as personality.
All of them are caused by something and all these causes may also change (S. J. Lec: “If there is no wind, the turncoat will have it’s own definite character”), but our behaviour, opinion, expression and action will come from precisely the cause. There are already long-induced behaviours and actions, habitual and everyday, like walking, breathing, eating, excretion, sleeping, etc, which are mostly so characteristic to us and have become just as parts of the normal life, so we hardly notice them.
Only if the conditions change, if we are being prevented somehow or if we are offered any other kinds of options, new reasons arise — then we can start to notice more again, something more to learn, to take more into account. Typical, it is for instance travelling, hiking, meeting new places, new relationships, people and circumstances.
Surprises may arrive. Some unexpected wind trap, some unexpected event may also create a totally unprecedented outburst, motivate and express or act in a totally different way. And then one might be surprised: “I didn’t know I could be so disgusting” — etc. And afterwards, start to think about how a human person is still a great mystery.
We can do everything. It’s all possible. Our capabilities are virtually unlimited. The question is just whether and how we know and feel these possibilities, how we can use them. Our consciousness is extremely flexible, mobile and susceptible. The occasional wind event may cause special events in the water array, but we will be able to achieve a wide variety of specialised capabilities and skills, such as talking and understanding the talk and more.
It may be very likely that many of the possibilities of consciousness we do not know or feel, not have yet to start to use. With the greatest opportunities, there is probably the pure consciousness which is not disturbed by any reflection of the mind, when the mind is fully silent. It’s like a plain field, a perfectly reflective water surface, a pure land where everything is possible. Achieving such a consciousness is entirely possible.
Consciousness can be in different states. Each comparison will limp, but we will still stick to the water metaphor. The usual water is like water always, familiar and inherent. And so is our usual everyday consciousness the most familiar and usual state of consciousness for us. Such as water characteristics may change if contaminations are added or if the pressure or temperature differs from the common, so the states of our consciousness may also change.
We may “lose consciousness”, we may faint, we may sleep and have dreams. We can get under hypnosis. The conditions of consciousness may, to some extent, also change in the impact of very small quantities of different odours, substances or perceptions. A cup of coffee, a music track or a glass of wine, may drive us in a different state. Much more powerful could, of course, be affected by larger quantities and stronger active substances.
Consciousness may also alter by mind in its own functioning, contingent of mood. You can make yourself angry, sad or happy only by thinking about yourself. You can make yourself anxious, start worrying, complain and be troubled. The question is again how we can and are able to rule these conditions, how we can govern and rule these moving thoughts and developments.
But come back to the basics. Consciousness is the environment, the way or the field in which the mind appears and moves. As waves consist of water, so the mind is made up of consciousness. The consciousness cannot be tasted or felt, it simply is. The mind is movements of consciousness — thoughts, imaginations, feelings, moods, concepts and other conscious activities.
All the movements of consciousness are caused by the signals coming into the mind through mind doors — hearing, touching, seeing, tasting, smelling — or from the mind itself — thoughts, memories, imaginations, delusions, etc. The more persistent shapes and patterns of the mind are called principles, opinions, beliefs, attitudes, assessments, views, and their bundle is also formed by what we consider to be a personality or ourselves.
It is clear that neither waves nor clouds have no meaning, no purpose, no aim. These only arise and disappear, come and go, according to how winds and other conditions make up them. Nor is there any sense or meaning on anyone’s mood or feelings either. These are caused by similar occasional events. Yeah, they can be noticed and recognised. And they may also be sent away again, like any clouds or ripples. These are all just delusions, empty of any meaning, random reflections, blurred and temporary.
And as there is no point or meaning in your feelings or moods, there is no point or meaning in a bit more lasting shape and forms that consist of these moods or feelings, opinions, assessments, attitudes, etc. They arise from the mutual relationships that the mind is delighted to create throughout various sensations, perceptions and thoughts. They are called generalisations, conclusions, views, opinions, beliefs, ideals, principles, etc.
If you have been experienced or heard of some sort of incident with someone, you would be happy to see, hope or fear similar cases for similar conditions in the future. It’s pretty natural.
Unfortunately, the scope and understanding of our perceptions are quite limited. We have nothing else to use but our sensations and perceptions that come through the mind doors, in addition to past experiences and memories, thoughts and imaginations. We have nothing else but the same tools. We are like sitting in a dark room where we can look out through a tiny slot. We only see a tiny piece of everything, and just for a moment.
If we hear, read or see something that is not consistent with our experience and knowledge, we often don’t notice it at all. We don’t recognise it, we just have no idea about it. – Or we become irritated and we will immediately engage in the fight. How can it be, someone looks different from me? Thinks differently? Believes in other way? We’ve identified ourselves with our perceptions, delusions, imaginations, opinions. We can die for our principles and beliefs or even kill somebody.
Of course, there are other options. We can learn something from new events and phenomena, and thus develop. We can let go of our current opinions and attitudes and change. We can understand that we can’t even be sure of ourselves. We can just notice these new things, just take note and nothing more.
All our decisions, all our activities, all the sayings are only based on this brief moment, in a limited area, only on our own experiences and conclusions. And even worse. We constantly forget what we have seen and experienced, we remember selectively and incorrectly, we believe in the fiction, we are afraid, we hope and imagine ourselves a lot. Yet we consider it real, final and determined. It is our self-consciousness, our confidence and sometimes self-esteem. We consider it all to be self-owned, to ours, to ourselves.
Sometimes they say the mind is the onliest reality and the only truth.

Story of geese

A story, based on an ancient folk song.
Others were given other works, but you got a simple task — to keep chickens, geese, ducks, wings, feathers. Keep the peace of mind, make sure it doesn’t go away, the flight won’t rise, don’t escape. What could be easier?

‘Come back!’ the Caterpillar called after her. ‘I’ve something important to say!’
This sounded promising, certainly: Alice turned and came back again.
‘Keep your temper,’ said the Caterpillar.

But the mind is unsettling, still looking for something, still wanting something else, something new, something more interesting. And it starts to do something, to create, weave, cheer, and build, without even understanding.
And there awake these unexpected feelings and storms, the thunderstorms that scare geese from the field and ducks from the meadow.

W. Shakespeare:

Lo as a careful housewife runs to catch,
One of her feathered creatures broke away,
Sets down her babe and makes all swift dispatch
In pursuit of the thing she would have stay:

Whilst her neglected child holds her in chase,
Cries to catch her whose busy care is bent,
To follow that which flies before her face:
Not prizing her poor infant’s discontent;

So run’st thou after that which flies from thee,
Whilst I thy babe chase thee afar behind,
But if thou catch thy hope turn back to me:
And play the mother’s part, kiss me, be kind.

So will I pray that thou mayst have thy Will,
If thou turn back and my loud crying still.

What to do? Peace of mind is gone flying. Nothing is the same anymore, the anxiety is taking place. A simple task — take care of chicken, hold the geese, and mind the ducks — proved to be insurmountable. What can be done other than crying at home? Starting source, starting data, starting reason, where everything begun, where the task came from, and there, already, very carefully remembering what was went wrong, how it went away.
A mind journey should be taken. No one else can do this for you, no one’s interested in bringing back your mind. Equip and secure yourself. It doesn’t have to be easy. In particular, keep your patience, which is most needed.
Wherever you go, you will reach yourself, in your own nature, in your own depths, to your own birth and death, hell and paradise.
And then you ask: What is all this? Where I am going? What I am looking for? Who I am?
But no one is answering you. No one can hear you.
Nothing’s gone away, you’re there and there isn’t anything missing, but you don’t see it, can’t hear it, and it feels like you’re missing something.
There are a lot of teachings and teachers, recommendations, advisers and guides. But they all repeat one and the same: all roads lead to purpose and no road really leads anywhere. You’re already there, only you don’t know that, you don’t recognise yourself yet.

“A challenge,” the hare suggests to the snail, “which one will come home first?”
“Okay,” says the snail and pulls into his house.

You lost something important. You lost reality, it flew away, and now you’re upset. Now you’re looking for it, trying to find it again, but you can’t. Seeking the same is what doesn’t let you see, hear, understand or find out about it.
You fell asleep and you haven’t woken up yet. It’s still a dream, it’s just that geese story you’re telling yourself and singing and you can’t shut up.
You lost your soul, you missed your clear mind, your real being, real knowledge. You only see what you can imagine, what you think and understand, what you’re thinking and you want, only what’s important and has meaning to you.
It seemed so simple, so easy — to keep and protect wings, feathers, just to look at them, as they are, in a natural way, letting them be, freely. Such an intriguing thing, such an easy task — keep your temper.

‘Is that all?’ said Alice, swallowing down her anger as well as she could.
‘No,’ said the Caterpillar.

Keeping temper is of course important, but no, that’s not all. It is only now that your pure, undisturbed and peaceful mind has flown away, and now it has become valuable and necessary. Then was it worth to do with something, to bind one’s self, something else to want and achieve? Now you see what your geese and ducks were worth. They weren’t yours, you only had to watch them, keep in mind, but now they’re gone and now it’s been your problem, how to get them back. They have become yours, your wish, and your dreams.
But now you can quietly start to realise that you haven’t really lost anything, you aren’t without anything, that you still have everything, all those winged and feathered. You took them and now you’re with them, much more than when you only had to watch them. And you know where they flew, where they went. You see the gate, you see the door, but you can’t enter yet. There is no clarity, no courage, and no certainty.
You’re starting to realise that it was not the geese that were the ones you had to watch, take cared of. That keeping and caring itself was important, you were important, all the story came to you.
And then finally you go in, there, to yourself, where the door was opened and the gate unclosed. Because now you’re ready for that, your mind is ripe for that, because now you know what you’re doing, you’re not afraid anymore, you’re not worried anymore.
All your minds, all your geese and ducks are getting ready and mature. You can support yourself on their bones, you can taste their meat, drink their blood. These are your bones, which now have become strong, it’s your flesh that has now matured and it is your blood that is now foaming as a beer.
They can no longer fly apart; no longer they can dissipate or disappear; no longer will they return to old manners or habits. Everything’s changed, you’re sure, you’re strong. The fight is over, the search is over. No more loss or victory, no search or finding. You’re saturated by yourself. Nothing can dissolve you or mislead you anymore. You’ve reached home, in your heart, in your centre, you’re all in yourself now, and you’re for real.
You don’t need these goose-ducks anymore, winged-feathered. They took you there, they brought you home. You don’t need to guard them anymore, take care of them, keep them or protect, you’re with them now, you’re in them, they’re gone now, and it’s really, sure, clear and real.
There are no differences, everyone has become one. There is no more you and others, everything is one, you and all, and it can grow something to be very big. You know everything now, you see everything, and nothing’s hidden from you anymore.
And you can start to feel like you’re now big, super big, and so big to reach the clouds, so tall you can look down on everything. You’re full of yourself and it’s terrible. You’re strong now, super strong, overly strong, you can do very much and get it done and you’re, therefore, truly dangerous, scary. Even standing still, even if you don’t do anything, don’t think about anything, don’t intend anything.
Now you have to get rid of it, now you have to get rid of yourself, you have to turn to a real start beginning or origin, to the source, and to grow.
They were all just your imaginations that you were trying to monitor and watch. Now there are no more of them, you’re one with them, no matter.
Now there should be someone to bring you back down to the ground. You can be useful now.

Three old men

There’s a famous picture of the three old men tasting a large bowl of vinegar. One thinks it’s too sour, in the other’s opinion, it’s quite bitter, but for the third one it seems pretty sweet. However, there is the one and the same substance, one and the same phenomenon, one and the same life, but it seems to be so different to the different people.
These three old men are, in the old days, known smart teachers Confucius, Buddha and Lao-zi. Unlikely the three of them got together like that, although they all lived in the same era, about 2,500 years ago.
Their teachings, at least in China, have been quite equally, and highly honoured, so sometimes some even talk of Chinese synergy or syncretism, in which they are like one blend.
A Chinese person could really call himself a Confucianist, a Buddhist and as well as a Taoist, without seeing any contradictions. Perhaps, as they say: born as a Taoist, living as a Confucian and dying as a Buddhist.
In fact, of course, these teaching are quite different and, in some respects, they are quite contradictory to each other.
Confucianism, for instance, considers a person bad in terms of his nature and teaches how they should be educated, developed and improved. In Buddhism, the human nature is considered good (each one has Buddha-hood!) and is taught how to get rid of obstacles, defilements and suffering. By Taoism, however, the natural course of things should be followed.
These three teachings are all quite understandable. Whether human nature is good or bad, this is of course an issue of assessment, which is known to be subjective and biased. But it is also clear that without care and cultivation, without restrictions and development, the right person cannot manifest. He hasn’t even started walking on two feet, not to mention of talking nor thinking.
Thus, the human nature of a man can only emerge by the involvement of other people, through culture — and it’s hard to be considered to be human, particularly, without the culture. Another question, of course, is whether and how to assess the various cultures, manners, practices and values. What to be considered noble and humane and what as “sour”.
And of course, it can also be thought that human nature is good and pure, clear and transparent by its nature, and that rather it is the involvement of other people, through culture, that comes with false thoughts and prejudices, assessments and attitudes that do not let and understand things the way they are. People start wanting or despising, preferring or avoiding. Various defilements arise. The importance of self-differentiation emerges and the wrong idea of personality develops.
True, this addictive chain can be discontinued, by studying and practicing awareness to see things as they are without meaning and importance. They are empty. Without such enlightenment, however, ultimately the suffering of unpleasantness, distress and “bitter” suffering will be experienced.
And anybody can also let his mind and nature remain free and innocence, sincere and clear, seeing and feeling everything freely and calmly from the beginning. Letting all, of course, go on the way, without acting. Teaching without words, without command, leaving everything superfluous, useless and void; unwilling (or not doing much), without competing and fighting especially with anyone; feeling natural, with simplicity and clarity of “sweetness”.
Obviously, human race seems to be still too young to reach consensus on their own culture at the most general level. There seems to be only two things that all people agree with: using two legs for walking, and using sign systems for communication, or talking. In terms of everything else, in particularly how to raise children or to have sex, how and what to eat or how to cover own body, there have been always endlessly and totally different opinions, manners and beliefs.

Fair play and good will

First of all, we must agree on the rules.

This is what the society expects and demands: to have the rules, the laws would be valid, that there would be a framework that everyone would recognise and in which everything could function. Obviously, there are rules, practices and manners in nature, seemingly among fishes, birds, insects and other animals, too.
The rules are sacred. They will not be changed, they will not be contested, we have to be in them. Anyone trying to change them or to live according to different rules is dangerous because that’s a violation of an honest game.

Lao-zi:

Nobody can ignore the customs.
Attack will follow immediately.

There must be rules in the game. It is not possible to play chess or football without knowing the rules, without counting the rules. The question will recede to whether life and being in general is a game or something else, whether there are some gaming rules for living and being, as in sports — what should be known to consider.
Life and being in general is not a game or a competition, but with various games and competitions, a lot for life can be learned.
There are rules, regulations and laws, but there is also a good will and honest game. Fair play means, among other things, that you will not take advantage of the accident or mistake of the opponent even if the rules allow it. There are always unwritten rules next to the main rules and they will also be known. Don’t go on a golf course, for example, with a hat “Buy Volvo” on it, because it’s just something not to do.
In the educational sense, sport and sports games have played a very important role in today’s Western world, already a century or more. The development of a physical form is of course essential; still, it is necessary to develop skill, accuracy, decision-making, speed, attention and flexibility; learn and use capabilities, in good terms. Of course, sports develops self-confidence and many more.
However, this subject is important still much more broadly. Thus, persistence, patience, accountability, dignity, honest game, loyalty, cooperation, governance, subordination, respect of rules and many more are needed and inevitable, especially in the field of ethics.
“It’s just not cricket,” says the Englishmen, if they want to draw attention to some fraud or a feather. The game is sacred, the game has its own spirit. The game is the model of life.
The handicap — giving better capabilities to weaker — has been written into the rules of several sports. So, to make the game more interesting, and to make sure we can also make the same concessions in real life, provide support and protection, give up our stronger law and a lot of other things.
Respect – for rules, judges and opponents — is the start of the sports world and also the start of the Western world civilisation. The laws must be followed and the representatives of power must be obeyed. The competitors have to be respected. If you can’t play it in the game, how are you gonna do it in real life?
Withstanding a loss is a skill that can be learned again precisely in sports. It was just a game. Whoever won or lost doesn’t have to be so important at all. More important is the pleasure of a beautiful game. The opponents thank each other for the good game. If someone should be blaming someone after the loss, arguing, flattering — he can’t lose. And when someone starts bragging with their victory and taunting their opponents — he can’t win.

R. Kipling:

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same…

In life, both can be imagined, it should be natural and understandable. If these situations are being played in a timely manner, they will also be able to accept them with dignity. It belongs, of course, to the cultivation and again it is something that, in real life, could be understood and respected.

Life not fair

There was a rich man, who came to a monastery and made a huge donation. The abbot accepted the donation, but said nothing.
“It is very expensive,” said the rich man.
“I know,” said abbot.
“It costs a lot of money,” said the man.
“I know that,” replied abbot.
“You should be at least thankful,” said the rich man, a bit confused.
“The donator must be thankful,” said abbot.

It’s an expectation, as if something is done then we supposed to get something in response. (That’s what I’m gonna do about, what I’m gonna get for it?) And then we have to suffer because of how much we’ve given and how little, if anything, we’ve get in response for it. You feel meaningless and useless if no one appreciates or recognises your merits and everything you’ve done, given, helped, offered, worked, and stretched.
But there may also be vice versa. You feel like you owe everyone who have built this world for you, guided you to speak and understand your culture, who have raised you up and harboured you. You feel like you owe it now and you want to give something back. You feel guilty of everyone who has bothered because of you, who has given you the chance to be here and to live and you suffer because of how others have suffered because of you.
That’s the two-end thing. On the one hand, we want to rule out situations, run and decide by ourselves, on the other hand we want to be necessary, appreciated, recognised. Even the biggest ego, sadist, tyranny or dictator wants recognition, wants to be needed and useful.

J. Steinbeck: The techniques of opening conversation are universal. I knew long ago and rediscovered that the best way to attract attention, help, and conversation is to be lost. A man who seeing his mother starving to death on a path kicks her in the stomach to clear the way, will cheerfully devote several hours of his time giving wrong directions to a total stranger who claims to be lost.

That’s a very good observation. Everyone has the need to feel necessary, useful, appreciated. Let someone be useful to you and he will owe you a debt of gratitude. Stalin did not care if anyone was afraid of him, hatred or praised; it was important to him to be essential, indispensable, inevitable.
(By the way, the gratitude is something else, as well as friendliness, kindness, joy…)
In fact, it is not the case that if you get something, you have to give something in response. Life is not business or trade, guilt cannot be released with sacrifices, over-court cannot be released by retaliation. The deeper reason remains, because the root of the root, all of which started, will soon be remarkable again. The deeper reason is in you.
If you think nobody needs you, what is it you’re suffering for? Is it that you can’t pay your debt, you feel guilty somehow? Or that your ego can’t be satisfied; you feel you’re not being recognised; you think you’re worth more, that people owe you a debt of gratitude? Why nobody notice you? Your arrival should have started with a new and flourishing era…

Ajahn Chah: Seeing that we are better than others is not right. Seeing that we are equal to others is not right. Seeing that we are inferior to others is not right. If we think we are better than others, pride arises. If we think we are equal to others, we fail to show respect and humility at the proper times. If we think we are inferior to others, we get depressed thinking we are inferior, born under a bad sign and so on. Just let all of that go!

In fact, everything is much easier. You don’t have to compare yourself to anyone or judge. You don’t owe anyone anything and nobody owes you anything. If it seems to you that you aren’t useful, just be useful, be helpful and do what is needed to do.
No need to assess, no need to compare anything or anyone. The comparison comes with very many disagreements and leads to troubles.
If something is bothered or rejoiced, it is because we have a comparison with what we are seeing, feeling and experiencing, and also with what we have seen before, felt and experienced in a similar situation, in such a relationship. And thereby, feelings, opinions, assessments, judgments and more are emerging. We draw conclusions, make decisions, act and we are still working on the basis of comparisons that we had known and felt before and what we know and feel now.
There’s nothing serious and persistent in that and can’t be. Our earlier knowledge or feelings are no worse nor better than what we know or feel right now. You have nothing more, you have not acquired anything or achieved as if you just experienced something, felt something, understood something. These are all illusions, they come and go, they don’t need to be paid attention, let them be. There’s no need to get upset about them, nor to get offended.
Assessments and comparisons — whether they are even needed elsewhere than when it is directly necessary, for example, for measurements, weighings, calculations and other such activities. These are very limited areas where this really needs to be done: exact sciences and trade, construction and economy, games and sports and perhaps some more. This must have come out of these areas so that you’re not a normal person now if you don’t have your own assessment of everything that’s around and what’s going on.
The position or opinion may also exist without assessment, but unfortunately it is hard to understand.
Any assessment and comparison actually restricts, harasses, will not let see the whole. The assessment and comparison can only take place on a certain background, in some definite scale, on the basis of some predefined pre-estimates, the previews adopted by default, which are already constrained and exclusive by themselves. There’s no need to explain that if we measure the length, for example, we don’t consider weight or colour.
Therefore, any assessment and comparison are already false and misleading. It is not possible to assess everything at once, the whole — although it may be dreamed and wanted. Evaluating, comparing and measuring is always a distinction which, in essence, does not suit a whole. Differentiation precisely excludes a whole. A whole cannot be given an assessment.
Of course, a large number of questions will rise from this realisation. For example, how is possible there a judgment at all, where the assessments are being given, and as if all circumstances are considered as a whole?
Actually, it’s not possible. And maybe it’s been known a long time ago already.

Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. (Luke 6:37)

And here are all these ethical dilemmas and paradoxes, how God can be good if there is so much evil in the world, or whether a lying is an option, if a murderer is asking directions to get to his victim.
Cannot give an assessment to everything, to all sorts, to a whole. In the universe, in nature, in the world there is no good nor evil, precious or harmful, beautiful or ugly. These are all our estimates based on some narrower view. You can question anything, but if the question isn’t right, you can’t count on the right answer.
In reality, there is no separate good or evil, no evil wolf or good rabbit, nor is there any way to recognise good and evil. Making a difference between good and evil is humane, personal, childish, egoist stupidity and blindness, not divine wisdom.
The Serpent lied to Eve (Genesis 3:5), God doesn’t make a distinction between good and evil. Isolating yourself from God, pushing God away from you — that’s the Original Sin, the biggest Fall for humankind.
Only whoever has been removed from Him, is being separately from Him, can praise Him, pray and ask Him something. Only this person can make a difference between good and evil, to judge, hope for mercy, forgiveness, redemption.
Because if you are separate, you are only in your own thoughts and opinions, wishes and needs, in your own world. You see and look at everything from the distance and so confronts everything. You by yourself built these walls and defences around yourself. And so you are like in prison.
You, by yourself, pushed the God out of yourself. You killed God by yourself. And now you suffer, ask and hope, believe and love, fear and regret. Because you’re no longer in indifference. You’re no longer in oneness, in whole, in one-allness.
Avoiding evil, removing evil is not possible. It’s not possible to do just and only good, it’s nonsense. One determines the second, one creates another. Wanting to do only good and not evil is stupidity; in fact, it is the greatest stupidity; it is a sin, the greatest sin, the Fall itself. There is no place in paradise for that sinner.
Whatever you do now, somebody will be hurt or damaged somehow, anyhow, inevitable. Just only your existence will include it immediately, it has side effects, and inevitably you make the way to someone too, cause harm, cause suffering.
There’s no one there, there’s never been anyone who wouldn’t have done that. No one is perfect and can’t be. Even the most honourable benefactors, saints, blessed, redeemers have been killed, shot, hanged, burned, tortured, crucified, as they had hurt somebody, caused suffering. There is no goodness at all, no one can be right or good about everyone, there is no justice at all.
And as there can be no absolute goodness, there can also be no absolute evil. Both are the structures of culture, only exist in our minds, in our imaginations.
Even the most ominous and worse, more intimidating and malicious, is at least one who recognises and justifies him — he himself. Even the impersonation of the ultimate evil – Devil, Satan, Lucifer, Mephistopheles or whoever — cannot be totally bad.
J. W. Goethe let him say:

Part of that Power, not understood,
Which always wills the Bad, and always works the Good.

No one can be totally good or totally bad. Evil is as necessary as goodness. Bad things happen, good things come. Both are needed. And neither of these are anything else but only in our imaginations.
Those who feel good and evil must endure, endure inconvenience, inevitably. They no longer see the world as it is — innocently and directly. They put their own knowledge in there and are therefore violated, sinners.
Knowing the good and evil in the case of a child makes the child curious, takes child to try “evil” — put it on the test, see what happens. Banning the child will inevitably lead to the temptation to do precisely the opposite, the banned. It seems to be somehow good, something that makes happy, doing it selfishly, doing evil, bad or violent, causing suffering to itself and others — and from there all this stupidity starts.
Before knowing good and evil, everything was united, similar, the same, in one-allness, but the violation of the ban ruined everything. There’s a “me” who wants something that’s not needed, which is strictly forbidden. And hence the inconvenience and suffering, hence the death and the fear of death, as only “I” may die.
There are good intentions and there are the right intentions and these are entirely different things. I can’t plan or do good, but I can plan the right thing and do the right thing.
Just be grateful and don’t expect anything.

Great indifference

“Meaningless, meaningless!” claimed to have been declared the old king Salomon, “Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless!” (Ecclesiastes 1:2) and the passage can also be translated as “all is absolute emptiness!”.
“The world is empty,” also knew the old Chinese wise Lao-zi.
“Everything is labelled with emptiness,” said Buddha.
But people don’t know that, don’t understand or believe that. They still want to see and find some sense, purpose on this world and life. It can’t be that all is void.
“Emptiness” is the same as “vanities”: pointless, without meaning, purpose and content. That goes for the whole world, for all terms. We ourselves give the meaning, we attach thoughts and expectancy to things and phenomena, we take them and change. But in itself there is no significance or meaning, essentially everything is empty and without any meaning.
Nothing is beautiful or ugly by itself, good or evil, beneficial or harmful. Nothing can by itself cause joy or suffering, to provide satisfaction or pain. Only if we feel pain or pleasure, if we experience pleasures or suffering, something harmful or helpful, good or evil, beautiful or ugly — only then we will give to the objects and phenomena their meaning and importance, fill their contents with meaning and purpose. Without you, without your attitude they’re empty.
All right, you may agree that a particle of dust or a grain of sand is really negligible, but not a sparrow. Okay, maybe all the trees and animals are null, but the human being isn’t. And if the body of a man may be nothing, his spirit and mind, his soul and personality should be valuable. Or at least the better and more virtuous parts of it. Or at least where it belongs or blends, some absolutely non-selfish universal spirit or nirvana or whatever. There must be something definite, can’t all be trivial, insignificant and pointless.
And then they say you must fear of being indifferent, because of them all the bad things do happen in the world. And that the most denial is pure nihilism, misdemeanour, evil root. And if it’s all pointless, why do bother to live?
It’s true, until one cannot make distinction between indifference and carelessness. It’s all true as long as you haven’t realised that you are nothing but emptiness, insignificant and pointless. While you still need to get more than the other, think of yourself as being more than anyone, more important than a grass-straw or sparrow or a particle of dust, in the meantime you’re suffering. You haven’t yet indifferent to yourself.
If you get the same one on your own, if you become indifferent to yourself, if you do not rejoice nor become sadden because of anything, if you understand that none of your desire or willingness, goal or objective is not really worth anything, that you and your belongings have not really any value — only then will disappear all of these questions about the meaning of life. Only then we can get rid of all forms of depression and nervous breakdown. Only then will also disappear the fear of death and suffering.
Until it is not yet realised that everything is one and empty, that the grass straw or the million dollars is one and the same thing, that there is no difference, is it a cock or chicken, young or old — as long as it is a vicious circle.
There is no need to live in illusions, to construct dream castles — and suffer after they will collapse.

Depends on question

The language is our scourge and blessing at the same time. It seems to us that if we have already called something, there can be all kinds of questions about that as well. Alas, these questions may not always have answers. Depends on the question.
In mathematics, a beautiful concept is used — uncertainty. It is not possible to say, for example, what the result will be when something divided by zero, because it is indefinite, there is no answer to that. If this has been accidentally, inconspicuously done, one cannot be considered right or reasonable result or answer. After divided by zero, anything can be “proved”, and similarly uncertainties arise when the infinity comes. The zero and the infinity should be considered very carefully, in their use it’s easy to reach a very strange conclusion.
And similarly, there are also mis-asked questions. Cannot ask what is the idea of life or whether God exists or what is the truth. These are uncertainties, empty questions. But they can easily be given content and definition when asking:
Why do you live? What’s the point of your life? What do you expect from life? What are you sure about?

Because these questions can only have personal answers. There is no sense of life without living entity, nor God without God’s admirer. The man himself gives his life an idea and purpose. So does everyone create their own God, all of it comes from the inside.
It is easy to see that this also applies to love or happiness. But more interesting is the same relationship with more serious and like insensitive issues. And especially interesting is the case when something has been figured out and then asked what it is. It can’t be answered that it’s a fiction that it doesn’t mean anything.
“The truth” or “God” may be somehow “there”, but these concepts are what we’ve created and figured out, but we don’t really know what they’re supposed to mean.
But let be the truth as it is, or as it seems, but some of the facts are there, and some of these are also important. Important things are important indeed and they can also be called truths or prosperous truths, why not, the idea remains the same. Just there are important facts that could be known and kept in mind. Things that don’t change or disappear, that affect us all the time, with which we stick together all the time, with which we are constantly dealing with, what we can’t get rid of.
And there aren’t much of these important facts, and they’re very simple:

There are inconveniences in life.
There’s a reason.
Can get rid of this reason.
There is a method for that.

We will now having closer look to them.

There are inconveniences in life

Who could doubt that fact. Still there are inconveniences: rain is raining, child pouting, wife whining, too little money, head hurts, stomach empty, no one calls, annoying noises, horrible fatigue, forced waiting, disgusting being, nervous feeling starts…
Nor are these dislikes, nor should there be any special torture or suffering, some particularly great truths or serious things that are still occurring.
In fact, there is no need to worry about things like that, they’re still coming and going, sometimes some remain longer. They just need to be considered, they can be dealt with, of course. Take care of your health, make career, develop skills and abilities, be calm and joyful in every situation, indeed.
In fact, most of the sufferings and inconveniences are fairly normal, totally natural through life, all the time. There are still unpleasant, still not satisfied, but they can be noticed and they may be our teachers.
We’re dealing with them all the time. We wipe out the disturbing dust particle, turn to the other side while sleeping, go away from the noise or disgusting smell, scratch the itchy spot, sip something, wave away the fly or mosquito. We still want to get rid of suffering, inconvenience, disturbing.
There is nothing special or mystical about it, it is our daily life and everyday activity. We have no need to achieve anything or get anywhere with these operations, if we want to get rid of something rather, something to avoid, remove, lose, we just want to change the existing situation that has caused this displeasure or dissatisfaction.
And we don’t feel satisfied anyway. It has become somehow embraced and inevitable. We have been taught and raised to wait and suffer. How, first of all, needs to be learned and evolving, then something else to be achieved and to get somewhere before we can begin to hope or wish for anything. Like it’s not yet the real life already, but like a some sort of preparation for something you have to reach in future.
And not only education and career. You must not be satisfied with your appearance, your pay, your position, you should have a lack of something all the time. All the time, you will be given what you do wrong and what you have already misunderstood, that you still have to find it the most important for yourself, the main one, the right one: your life, your calling, your true self, soul mate. Constantly, teachings are given how to calm, relax, get rid of stress, concerns and tensions as if they were perfectly natural and normal states of mind. But you can’t see it anyway, you can’t understand it, because everyday worries and tensions and stress don’t let you feel free, calm, relaxed.
Such contradictory recommendations and teachings, if you pay attention to them and take them seriously, are rather disruptive and are really not going to let anything very clearly see and understand anything right. But within them we live.
And so we are never totally satisfied with the existing situation, and we would like to change it somehow and in that sense there may indeed be a saying that the life is suffering, no matter how trivial it may sounds. Especially if we notice that mostly we are just dealing with changing and improving this existing situation.
The unpleasant is also, if something changes, if it is no longer what it used to be. All the time, you knew, believed, felt, and could count on it, were sure of it, but now it’s not that anymore.
It may have been your favourite coffee shop or bus line, street, bench or tree, habitual view or service, the price or value of something that was totally unexpectedly changed, was redesigned as you had never seen or considered possible. It may have been someone familiar or close to someone who did or said something that startled you, which you wouldn’t have expected from him. It may have been your favourite singer, or an actor, a politician, a celebrity, who surprised you unpleasantly.
There may be not much what’s changed. Every time it turns out that something is not same as you had known or thought, expected or determined, you feel immediately disturbed. You feel like you’ve been let down, betrayed, you feel insulted, you suffer for it.
It may also be unpleasant for you to suffer for what you’ve done yourself. Shame and embarrassment in hindsight. You’re sorry, and you feel guilty. Or regrets because you left some good opportunity unused. Or you’re worried about what might come.
Open some newspaper or news portal and what do you see? Someone can win or lose in elections, some prices may rise or fall, some virus or epidemic may start spreading, some substances may harm you, all kinds of threats and warnings that all can happen. There should be an apology and compensation for the over-court, it is necessary to avenge revenge. What could all have been if something had gone differently. The mystery of a ship or fallen aircraft that drowned once is still unsolved. Somewhere, a big accident has happened, someone’s secrets could come to daylight, some are still getting very large sums for nothing.
Disgusting and unpleasant is also to see, hear or read something that doesn’t suit with your convictions and principles. At all, the behaviour of all kinds of unpleasant and stupid people is unbearable, especially when they bother you or you have to be near them.
Unpleasant is also if something goes not as hoped or how it was promised. You did the spending, you bothered, trusted, believed, contributed, waited — but nothing. Things like that can make you very angry.
But all the most unpleasant and intolerable is if you don’t be recognised, if they don’t count on you. If you are suspected or being accused of being lied to in the face, you will be deceived and betrayed. If you’re smirked in public, if you get insulted, humiliated.
That’s totally unbearable at all. And if it lasts like this all the time, day-to-day, the whole life, then finally one can reach to the conclusion that life is suffering…
Is there a reason for all this?

There is a reason

But now we’re reaching to the point where we should stop and consider whether at all there is a need to go ahead, talk more about it, more to know. Maybe we shouldn’t.
There may already been offences here; from here on, it may start to be resented, because the story is getting much more personal.
In fact, it is already gotten, because these dislikes, sufferings and troubles are already personal and arose perhaps because you took them personally. Maybe you are the reason for all your inconveniences and sufferings, or rather what you’re imagining yourself.
Whoever suffers, who are not satisfied, who has to tolerate inconvenience, it’s you, it’s yourself. You suffer, you’re not satisfied, you feel uncomfortable. Actually, it’s your imagination of yourself, it’s who you think you are — it suffers.
Still I, me, mine, my, with me… Actually, it’s not all gonna happen to you, it’s not all about you anyway. Whoever you think you are, doesn’t matter at all.
Every conflict, every anger, every strong reaction consists always someone, some person who feels wounded, insulted, overly treated.

W. Shakespeare:

Then hate me when thou wilt; if ever, now;
Now, while the world is bent my deeds to cross…

It’s an example of overestimating oneself. In reality, nobody is against him, no one hates him; it just seems to him so, it’s just his imagination of himself. But he suffers for it.

It’s all affection, bond, addiction and linkage, personal hate and feeling hatred, nerve and nervousness; themselves have been linked and tied to all of this. It’s all just the personal need, the desire and the wish, the inconvenience and the suffering.
You may suffer because your last picture or post hasn’t gotten enough likes, that you haven’t received enough recognition. Of course, there is a certain anxiety behind it, uncertainty, cowardice, weakness; it is the need to get incentives, it is dependence on incentives to feel more confident, more courageous and stronger again. But who needs them, who depends on them? You’re the one, who else.

What do they think? How I look like? What are they talking about me? Don’t they get me wrong? Don’t I gave a weird impression? Did I noticed?

All the troubles start from something personally taken, from not been indifferent, not been in one-allness, all-oneness.
If no one agrees with your views, it doesn’t mean he hates you. And you have no reason to hate him. You are not your point, opinion or position. These are totally different things. There is no need to hold them, to identify yourself with them, to take them personally or being offended because of them.
All you see, you hear or read, is nothing to do with you. You see something, you hear, read, feel, understand, all right, but it doesn’t touch you, it’s not done to you. Even what they say to you or what kind relations they have with you, is not about you, but only their words or attitudes.
The ultimate, most disgusting questions are these:

How does that suits to me? How do I like that? Why would I care? What does that mean for me? What can I get for that?

These are the most horrific, the most horrible questions and if one can’t think in different way, if these remain the last questions, if there are no more questions, then there is nothing to talk about anymore, there is nowhere to go, there is no way to help.
Like nothing else exists, like the whole world would only be of you, as you were the most important thing, like your thoughts, deliberations or attitudes were important or even most important, obligatory and remarkable for everyone.

But it’s all like it seems to me, is there anything else? Only I’m real, just what I feel is right…?

Actually, it doesn’t matter what you just think or imagine, nobody doesn’t care about. Everyone has their own opinions and thoughts and they are much more important to them than yours. All the trouble begins with the importance of self-differentiation, putting oneself in the centre of the world, the imagination, as everyone would have to do with you, as you should matter for everyone.
And even if something is really told to you, somebody approaching to you, you’re not going to have to bother. Maybe someone didn’t like your appearances, someone reviews your speech or behaviour, someone praises you for something, someone’s thrilled about you.
It’s their business and it doesn’t have to hurt you in any way. Your appearance, your suit or dress or hair isn’t you. Whatever you’ve done or said or written, it’s not you. It’s the matter of others, how they deal with your appearance, sayings, being and doing things, thinking about it, and appreciate it, but it must not bother you.
Are the birds sing about you? Do the wind blows because of you? Of course not. But then, why someone’s opinion or attitude should be your business? What kind of relationship are you supposed to have with that? Any addiction and linkage, any association with yourself will make you unhappy.
Nor do we need much else in this world of people if our existence is at least recognised. There may be anything else, but if you’re just ignored, if somebody don’t care, if you don’t even noticed, it can still hurt, it can make you angry…
Actually, it’s quite human and general. Even the most humble beggar monk could be rejoiced if he could be somehow invaluable or necessary. You can still enjoy it, but you don’t have to involve yourself, to make yourself more important, to depend on it.
The cat won’t be insulted if somebody steps over him, and not noticed, the cat doesn’t need to feel himself necessary, he doesn’t need recognition. But the person wants to feel oneself necessary, it’s almost as important to the person as food, air or water. A man can starve in order to gain recognition, hold his breath, be thirsty in the desert, he can commit even crimes for that.
That’s the confidence we need, and if we don’t have it enough, we’ll imagine it.

You, yourself

Trouble for you, whatever you need or want, missing something, because you’re already lost.
Who wants to win something, loses all, and wins whoever has nothing to lose — if such notions are used at all — because all of our victories or casualties are only our own imaginations.
It’s happening all the time. All the time, you justify yourself, excuse yourself. You know very well that what you want and do is not useful, right or healthy at all, but you want and do it because you always find a justification for your doing. In the case of even the smallest things, you are still in the background, you are the one that you support, to whom you give proof, assurances, justices and that will never cease.
We are praising and bragging ourselves with our achievements and victories and we want to make others to envy us, to amaze us and admire us and everything we have: our car, our house, our money, wife, husband, child.
Does your Rolex shows a different time than an ordinary watch? Of course not. But it shows you as a different person than ordinary people, in particular to you, to yourself, that you’re worth it. Nor is it important what you have achieved, where you have reached, the important thing is that it has also been noticed and recognised.
Most of the people can easily live their lives without ever tasted turtle soup or climbed to the top of the Eiffel Tower. But there are also those who don’t want to be among these ordinary part of people, still wanted to be a special, enviable, important.
You have built a dissected network around yourself, through which all things, circumstances, relationships and phenomena are judged — by your assessment.
It’s you who have all solved for yourself, pigeonholed, made it easier for you in order not to think much more about all kinds of things so that you can clearly and simply be and live in order to be ready for answers and solutions to anything — generalisationed.

“All men are pigs. All officials are malicious. All Jews should be discarded…”

You have that all created by yourself, you have made yourself identical to your feelings, wishes, attitudes, opinions, assessments and imaginations. You’ve identified yourself with your life, your relationship, your acquaintances, your family, your affairs and your assets. You may have identified yourself with your business, team, race, your own language or religion, your own people or your country.
Louis XIV said: “State, it’s me!” A. Hitler wrote the book entitled “My fight”. We sing how our fatherland is our happiness and pleasure.
How often they say: “This is my baby!”, “This is my achievement, my money, my husband, my wife, my business!” or “It belongs to me, it’s mine!” and “I know, I need, I must have!”…
Do you belong to your parents, are you their own? Of course not. And similarly, you don’t own your achievements, your money, your husband or your wife. You have started to associate yourself with them, you see yourself together with them. But why and how should they relate to you? What kind of relationship should they have with you? It’s not all yours, it’s not you.
Even your thoughts, feelings, opinions, views and assessments are not yours. Absolutely everything we know, believe or think, is learned, acquired, obtained from others, from somewhere read or heard, and then we have been comparing, combining, reordering and resubmitting it. Rarely, if at all, something totally new is created.
When we’re born, we didn’t know anything. We are only going to know something because of what we experience, only what we are told, what we hear, see, read, feel. We are offered examples and we are emulating them, there is nothing more. How can there be a clear and definite final truth at all? What value have our beliefs, principles, assessments, opinions, views if we only repeat and believe what have been told, what we have heard?
If you’re talked about early childhood like God’s incarnation, you’re gonna take it like that, you accept that, you know, you think, and you understand that world like that. If you’re made it clear from the beginning that you’re not good for anything, you’ll be like that, and you interpret and think about it, according to what you’re still experienced and understand. Or when you get some different kinds of signs and experience, you may interpret and reconsider. There is still no connection to any kind of truth or reality.
We are copycat animals, we do what others do. We don’t want to differ from others, we want to belong to our herd and we want others to be the same as we do, and at the same time we want to be also special, important, unique, interesting, remarkable personalities, appreciated and recognised.

Our wishes have no end. They feed on our desires, anger, attitudes, assessments, creating a constant feeling of dissatisfaction. We are not satisfied with anything and suffer because of that.
Of course, we want to get rid of this dissatisfaction. It seems to us that there is still a need for more recognition, property, money, stuff and more, in order to be more self-confident, free and independent, and so to be truly the way we want to be, to finally feel the joy, success, happiness, power, the true and special recognition, the feelings and the relationships, to get another something that has never been. Alas, the final satisfaction will not come, will never come. The soul remains still hungry, the soul still starving, still wanting to achieve something, yet to get somewhere.
For example, it’s so hard to reconcile with death, disappearance, unprecedented change. It is still wanted to believe that there is something that remains to be kept alive, it is going on, it will be born again, be it a soul or spirit or a divine spark which remains to live forever.
It all begins with the person, personality, self, self-esteem, from self-inflicted perceptions of their own honour and dignity. And all of this can still emerge and evolve in a civilised society with a hierarchy, different roles and classes, casts and views. It is discovered that some indigenous peoples with a more collective life may not at all understand what the “personality” is and why it would be good to get rid of it. They didn’t have to worry about it.
But in a hierarchically complicated society, personality may rise to a very central importance. For what else would all these duels be set if not to restore the person’s honour, defame? All these knights and samurai, the kings and the rajas, the dukes and the earls were special personalities. The hurt of someone’s dignity, honour, self-esteem was the biggest anti-personal crime, the injury of honour was the greatest insult. Even killing just like that wasn’t very much, comparing with that. Right and dignified is to cast a glove in the case of insults, to call the duel, to demand satisfaction, blood, death. All dictators have big self-esteems. All these parades, palaces, monuments, triumph arcs, skyscrapers are still done just for to astound, amaze.

B. Shaw: Two notable drawbacks of civilization: a palace, and soldiers…

Likely all major wars have been driven by offences between personalities and thus the wrath and desire to retaliate. It’s enough to remind the most famous eposes. In “Iliad”, the first European civilisation’s epos, the very first word is “wrath”.
Personal relationships, heightened self-esteems, unsatisfied recognition needs — this is the cause of all inconvenience and suffering. And not only to those who suffer from their causes. To all those who are somehow involved to it, therefore have to suffer, and knowingly and intentionally, to be hurt and die.
And still there are studying, training and inventing increasingly new techniques and tools, more cruel, more horrible, evilly and angrily, in order to kill and injure, to create inconvenience and sufferings, to produce even worse suffering and pain, and the justifications will not end. You demand something, you wait and hope something and you suffer if you can’t.
Yes, there’s a reason for all this, but actually everything is much easier.
Do you remember how you were asked when you were a kid, whom you want to become? It doesn’t matter what you thought or answered, but the question may have remained. And now you can ask yourself, whom I’ve become? And you mean, is that what I wanted to be like? And you think about, what I really want to be?
In a society oriented to achievement, we will never be satisfied with ourselves, we will never accept ourselves, on contrary, we are nervous all the time, anxious, worried and stressed, we want something else, all the time.
It all fuels faith in the endless economic growth, progressing, etc. All the time, everything must be getting better and better. This will cause concern already if economic growth should slow down. As if the economy could only grow, as if all things could only get better, as if there was something missing all the time, as if there was something else.
What do you want? You know what you don’t have. But what’s missing?
Any wish or desire is separating yourself from what is not, what would be needed, from something missing, being aside of the missing, seeing it as a separate entity, it’s the need to get it, whatever it should be. Also, the desire to rejoice is a desire, also the need to be needed is a need. It is all just declaring yourself poor, recognising intolerance, weakness and helplessness. There’s nothing directly wrong with it, one can still suffer because of the lack of something, for something insane, why not.
But understanding starts with the acknowledging that you are already your own desire and wish, that others don’t even matter anyhow, that there is actually nothing more. You’re the source of your own willingness and wishes, you create them by yourself. They don’t come from anywhere else, no one can get them for you, no one else can produce them in you. You are your own desire and will, pain and suffering, trouble and happiness.
And if nothing responds to your wishes, your needs, your hopes, your imaginations, then there’s nothing to achive! Then there was no need to hope or imagine, and so there was no reason to suffer for it at all.

Needs and intentions

It may seem like there’s a pretty big difference if you want something or you need something. Intentions and desires change, they come and go, depend on mood, situations and opportunities. The needs, however, seem to be much more permanent, they don’t appear or disappear as easily.
You might want some money, you want to have sex with someone, you want something sweet, you want to do something, get something done. But you need peace in your mind, you need food, you need certainty, you need recognition. They seem to be quite different things.
Instead of asking yourself, what I want, you’d better ask, what I need. If you say you don’t want anything, it’s just momentous, for a second, now and here. But if you say you don’t need anything, it’s already much deeper and more thorough testimony.
There are always some needs behind all kinds of wishes and wanting. If you don’t have needs, you probably don’t have any wishes or willingness. The intentions generally can be satisfied and then they will disappear, at least for a while, but the needs will not disappear if they are satisfied. On the contrary, that is why they are growing and increasing, satisfying just feed them.
Needs arise and grow from layer-to-layer. When the most natural physiological needs, such as hunger, thirst or sex are satisfied, immediately the next need arises — to be sure that it will remain so: there will appear a need for protection, security. And if you feel protected already, there will come a new need — to be somebody: there will arise a need to belong somewhere, to take a part in society or community. If you are somewhere, you belong somewhere, there will arise a need for recognition — to be judged there, to be counted, recognised. And if you have also been recognised, there arise a need to carry out yourself — something to do, create, change, organise, perform, say, publish, declare, impress, present.
Every time we’ve already achieved something, there’s something else we want and so there’s a need to get to the next level. If you are already appreciated, well known and famous, then there is a need to use it as well — to do something, to move someone in place. The most ultimate level is the need to power, will to dictate, command, control everything, lead and rule.
It’s quite easy to understand. What is more important to us and what we appreciate higher, whether, for instance, having sex with another person or having relationship with the person? There may still be willingness for something or someone, but if it does not involve a relationship, with enough recognition, attention and care, it will be empty and worthless, sometimes even painful and offensive.
The relationship in which you are appreciated and acknowledged, you are being cared for — that is missing. Not about what’s just hitting your mind; not the willingness, the desire; not what you want, what you would like at the moment. All the wishes and desires, all the intentions are merely just means to achieve something, to satisfy certain needs.
All this has been described for a long time already and this is all generally familiar, there is nothing very special or new about it. Here, however, you could ask, if the needs can be removed, could the needs also leave? These are good questions.
Yes, needs may also leave and disappear. The removal of needs starts with the most recent, from top layers. The first one to leave is the one who arrived last.
You may start to realise that there is really no need to be particularly special, something to say, something to tell or to declare; that you have no need to achieve anything, to prove anything to anyone, to lead, control or rule.
And if this is understood, it will soon be understood also that there is no need for fame or recognition either. You know very well what you’re worth and nobody else has to add anything to it.
If you don’t need recognition, it doesn’t matter very much if anyone cares about you or whether you belong anywhere or whether anyone knows anything about you or notices you.
And if it doesn’t matter where and how you belong or what you might be thought of, then the fear and anxiety will soon fall, the need to be somehow protected or secured disappears.
Thereafter, the needs of sex, food and sleep may also start to decrease, and even breathing may remain less frequent and become easier.

Enough is enough!

“They want to make me laugh there,” said a six-year-old boy who didn’t like children’s shows.
And the same could also be said about a lot of other things. They always want to make us laugh, surprise or amaze us, draw our attention, make us have fun. They want to make us experience something new and special, something never experienced before; knowledge, understanding, excitement. The whole tourism business and the entertainment industry work just on that.
Yeah, it’s all possible, and interesting if you want something. It may seem to you that you need something you’ve lacking; and that’s why you need something else — new experience, idea or whatever it is.
Look around in any mall. How many things can you see that you actually need in there?
Alcohol, cigarettes, cosmetics, sweets, cakes, ice-creams, all kinds of crunches, beverages, tea, coffee, flowers, jewellery, souvenirs, carpets, magazines, books, toys, movies, tv-sets, stereo-systems, cameras, players… How many of them does someone actually need?
All these things, all these new models and versions of things, fashions and other kinds of stuff are actually needed only to entertain, reassure, surprise and excite. These are all remedies for the mind.
Our mind is sick, it wants and wants, more and more, but that means there’s never enough. Because all these “medicinal products” are only used for the external signs, manifestations, symptoms of the disease. They seek to satisfy the intentions and wants. The disease itself remains. The desires and needs will not go anywhere.
Greed and fear are said to be two basic driving forces in the human society. And there’s still a need for recognition: let everyone be surprised, astonished and envious!
But why? What does that give you? What need does it satisfy?
You don’t have to have a place downtown with a sea view, somewhere quiet, on a hill, in the woods… And how much do you really need shoes, dresses, costumes, handbags, suits, ties, pants, shirts, underwear, china, cars, motorcycles? Rooms, houses, land, palaces, castles? Women, men, friends, companions, servicemen? Respect, power, glory? Comfort, caring, condolences? Love, sex, excitement?
The same goes for news and entertainment. Do you have to watch the news every day, to constantly be aware of the events around the world? Why do you need to know that somewhere a train crashed or someone divorced someone?
And why do you need so much entertainment? Why do you have to play music all the time, why do you have to watch the series, movies, shows, play games, be a fan of your favourite team…
When can I say: now this is enough, enough is enough? – Never.
It would be like the same as usual, something still lacking, still having to want for more, endlessly, without an upper limit. But there is no satisfaction, insatiability remains, because there is no purpose, no final state, happiness or whatsoever, which actually exists.
Yet, in the name of that consumerism, the woods will be cut off, plantations and fields will be set up, ever more factories and warehouses, loading containers, expanding ports and roads, cargo ships, trucks, trains, planes… And all of that itself causes a lot of fuss.
But we are talking about what this endless desire will do with us. There would be nothing wrong with it, there are always things that aren’t necessary at all, why not. This includes, for example, all the artworks, poetry, literature, music and actually all human culture.
After all, the over-consuming has a brighter side, too. As the world economy thrives, so do the living standards for people. Never before was humankind in so good health. Hundreds of millions can now use fresh and clean water and electricity for the very first time. People have more opportunities for travelling, communicating, self-development, etc. Not yet to mention important technologies like computers, the internet and much more.
It’s a shame only if there are no limits, if you still only want to drink beer, smoke, take some sweeties, looking for new excitements and then get fat, get sick and stupid.
In nature usually there come up frontlines, the boundaries. Just not enough resources, food, water, space, light, whatever. Or that death will come before you get finally hurt or make a fool of yourself. The tree can only grow until it falls down on its own weight. Grows to death. The mosquito can suck blood until explodes. Sucks to death.
A sense of natural restraint has left us, and now we can only get enticed by the pleasant or appealing. And we tempt ourselves to be foolish.
Perhaps these wise teachers and sages were right, who, since the ancient times, paid attention to moderation, taught to develop mindfulness, advised peace of mind and not to react at each and every occasion.

Lao-zi: If you know it’s enough, that’s enough.

If our natural sense of restraint is lost, we must be able to set limits, to control ourselves.
And that begins with an attentive, mindful state. You could get used to the habit, looking around at any mall and seeing something interesting or pleasant, always stop for a moment, contemplate and think about it. Why do I want it? Do I need that?
The wishes and wanting will not lead anywhere, they will take us away, away from understanding and comprehension, from insight and clear understanding. The worst which can happen is that you’re going to get what you want, to fulfil your wish. That must be feared, and should be avoided as possible, at any price.
If the wish comes true, if you get your desire, be prepared for the worst. It’s no longer possible to get out of it. The trap is already closed. You put yourself in there, into your own desire by your own wishes, which you considered to be yours. You identified yourself with your desire, built a trap and now you are there and suffer. Because reaching there did not offer any final satisfaction, no eternal happiness, nor joy.
It was a way that did not lead anywhere, and not could it. That thing wasn’t what you had imagined and thought about, it was just your imagination, an illusion. Any desire and wish is immediately, from the outset, a false and faulty idea. And if it happens that in some kind of way, some of your wishes are fulfilled, the new wishes and desires will arise, and new mistakes, new disappointments will come. And that will continue endlessly.
Many nations have parables, fairy tales and cautioning stories of how the fulfilling of all desires with a golden fish or with someone else’s support will inevitably lead to misery, catastrophe, destruction.
Understanding starts with the appreciation that you’re not missing anything. You don’t need anything, you have everything, you don’t need demand or want anything, you’re already there.

Lao-zi: Unnamed and natural doesn’t want anything. There is no desire, there is silence. There is peace in the world.

We need something only because we feel like we need something, like we’ve missed something or lost. The understanding starts when you start realise that everything is already here, that enough is enough.
If you understand that there is no need for new excitements or incentives; if no one or nothing doesn’t have to make you happy or surprised, offer some new pleasure or experience; and that no one has to admire you, respect you. If you don’t need to make someone amazed, envied; and also that you don’t need to give something, to make somebody laugh or happy. If you don’t have to prove anything, neither to yourself nor to anyone else; if you don’t have to look like someone else, and if what they think about you doesn’t matter at all.
Then it will understood that all of this is no longer necessary for being. Then you know, how to be.
It’s raining, somebody insults you, but why should it concern you? Why should it concern how you be?

Lao-zi: Wishes bring evil. Unease brings trouble. Wanting brings misery. If you know it’s enough, that’s enough.

How to die

It’s not like an easy social conversation, but if you are already been, you could also think about how to die. And the suggestions are generally the same — like a tree releases its blossoms off — just and lightly. Yeah, they were on it, they were its part, they had grown out of it, they were its flowers. But they flourished and fell off, just, easy and lightly. It was gone and went away like anything else.
Death is just as simple and natural as birth and life. If it was, it was and when it went, it went. It’s not something that should be feared or regretted. Death is nothing that threatens anyone or which can intimidate someone. You die anyway, sooner or later. As it’s no achievement or purpose, so it can’t be some sort of punishment or someone’s revenge.
Of course we protect ourselves from cold and heat, rain and wind, refrain from getting hurt and pain. If we’re sick, if we get hurt, if we have some kind of disease, it’s just our body that’s sick, which got hurt, with some kind of disease. It doesn’t have to be our concern. Of course, we’ll take care of our body, treat him to be better and get better, but that’s all. No need to identify yourself with your body, as well as to feel sorry for yourself.
And of course, we could also take care of not hurt anyone else, causing suffering to others. As we defend ourselves, this is how all creatures are defended. Everyone has a desire to survive, to be on. Maybe we don’t always understand and recognise each and every creature; perhaps we will cause suffering and death without knowing, inevitably. It is also true that there is no absolute goodness or full release of the consequences of all acts in this world. However, friendliness and condolences, carelessness and attentivity can be developed. There’s already a lot of help.
Sure, we have instinct to survive. But it’s not a fight, it’s no match. There is no need to imagine fighting it and winning it or falling on it, not having to save lives and avoid death at any price. You can’t avoid it anyway.
There is no need to research death or to find any special reasons or explanations, meanings or purposes for it, as in for life. We don’t ask why the flower was withered, why the leaf fell off. It doesn’t even matter whether that flower was cut off, fed or broke somehow or fell off itself. No grief and no regrets. All blossoms flourish. All people die. There is nothing extraordinary or unprecedented, tragic or dramatic about it.
Of course, it could still be flourished and there might have been something going differently. All the time something happens, all the time it can go in one way or a different way. But when it went in some way, it went that way already. It’s just like only the flame can fade out, the one who flourishes can wither — so to die can only the one who lives. Only living gives us the chance to die.
Death doesn’t teach anything. Dying is no longer studying. Whoever’s dead won’t learn or do anything at all. However, one can learn and understand its inevitability, and also its instability. It’s the same inevitable change as any other. Everything is changing, nothing remains. Nothing really matters or has meaning if we don’t consider it important and special. And what is your death really special about? Why should you be the last one who dies if the end of the world or any catastrophe should arrive?
We can admit that everything is temporary and void, but it is very difficult for us to agree that we ourselves are temporary and void as well. We want and we hope that we ourselves would always be there so we don’t change or disappear anywhere. We are very poorly tolerating the changes that take place with ourselves. We are suffering because of them.
We’re pity about ourselves. We will take everything in ourselves very personally. We are stuck in our thoughts, in our imaginations, in our own feelings. We are going to get too seriously our relations and attitudes, our concerns and our problems. And we will suffer if anything happens to them. There’s nothing going on with us, actually. We only recognise all of this with ourselves and therefore we suffer.
Your body will disappear, your personality will disappear, your brain will cease to work, but you seem to have lost yourself. Alas, the “you” has never really been, and it can’t disappear anywhere either. Your disappearance is deceptive. Death is only a big myth, an imagination, an opinion, an illusion that has arisen from the importance of self, being taken personally. The dogs don’t mourn and cats have no graveyard. In the ancient India, the custom was that the dead bodies were left on the ground. Spiritual teachers advised their followers to visit those degrading bodies and to think about dying.
Our body can die, our consciousness may extinguish, but that’s all what can happen. We are temporary, persistent, and we are changing all the time. Our moods, feelings, opinions, thoughts, wishes and intentions are appearing, lasting and dying constantly. Our self-esteem, our imagination of ourselves, is also not lasting and is not worth anything more than any other imagination. It can be dismissed right now.
Dying is one of the experiences in this world, as is the birth. The disintegration of the body teaches us that it is temporary and void. The disappearance of consciousness teaches that it is also temporary and void.
And if there is no one who is dying — if there is no personality, no selfishness, no self-esteem or self-admiring — then there is nothing to lose or regret, there is nothing to mourn or miss. No death.

How it’s going

Ignorance, or not-knowing, or mental confusion, creates moods, conceptions, imaginations, feelings and motives. And they, in turn, demand analysis of and dealing with various meanings, signs and definitions.
As a result, the name and shape, content and appearance, internal and external, abstract and concrete, emerge. Then naming and comparing, defining and identifying start to work, and the gates of perception enliven — things will be noticed, marked, touched, seen, tasted.
There are contacts, or feelings, or emotions, emerging from assessments and attitudes that are now being considered to be self-owned, and immediately related to ourselves — “I know, I think,” — and from there, the desire, the thirst will appear, — “mine, for me!” — which leads to clinging, on affection for something.
This creates a feeling of self-existence, selfishness — “I am, I do!” — which, in turn, creates a perception of the birth and emergence of the individual, and also of its imminent ageing, sickness and death.
And this all takes place very fast, unnoticed, in a flash, and constantly. You can hardly notice it if you’ve already set it up for yourself. You’ve already decided how to get into it, how to use it and in a very fundamental way: “I want” or “don’t want”; “I like” — or “don’t like”; “useful” or “harmful”. And all such realisations emerge only in connection with you, yourself.
It’s happening so fast that we can’t stop at the doorway and calmly understand — that it’s all empty in itself and doesn’t mean anything. That we are giving everything our assessment, its meaning and importance by ourselves; that all of what we know, we do, we want, we decide, hate or love — that all comes only from us and not from anywhere else.
But it can be stopped, at its beginning. No one is ignorant or confused by nature. We know that everything is changing, we know that nothing is ever good enough and totally satisfying, and that our perception of ourselves is only an imagination. But we like not to remind ourselves of this, we prefer to ignore it, to leave it all aside and forget.
Because we like to keep dreaming — staying in our imaginations and illusions, as if all the time everything remains the same, as if we could fully be happy forever someday. Waking up from these sweet dreams is unpleasant. We don’t like a reality where nothing is persistent, nothing has meaning, every thing makes us suffer, and we can’t be sure even about ourselves. More convenient and easier is to keep sleeping and dreaming.
Yes, it’s laziness and comfort that keeps us being foolish and ignorant and doesn’t let us see the obvious facts.
It all infiltrates at first, quiet and unnoticed. It all starts with some little ripples. It’s dirt and pollution, defilement and debris, which should be noticed just from thus beginnings and which should be carefully and systematically cleaned up as well. No one has to be stupid or ignorant.
You can keep it all in mind, mindfully. You can take this how it is, without making any concepts of any kind, without adding our own relationships, opinions or prejudices to anything, feeling all the same in everything. Being one in all sorts. Taking everything equally, united, in oneness.
It may not succeed at once, but it can be practiced and developed. And once it has become aware ever a little bit, it can already be used to stop this doomed cycle. Maybe not just now and in every time, case and situation, but still enough anyway.
But sometimes it may not be very easy and remain unnoticed, and so all the conceptions, the moods and the other kind of defilements are taking place already.
Whatever they are, they may also be noticed, peacefully and indifferently. They’ll come and go. In the meantime, they just take some time. Then let them go as they came and they’ll be gone. That’s why we don’t need to react to them immediately, to do something about them, to deal with them, to fight them.
But you may notice that you’ve already started to fight with them, analysing and thinking about them. Comparisons and considerations are taking place. You’re trying to understand them with your wisdom. You might want to get rid of them, but actually you get deeper into them. And already you may see and feel all of these as if they are coming into you from the outside, oppressive and nightmarish. And you’ve already started to feel like they’re connected with you, like they’re your personal problems or concerns, your life, your world.
But even if things have already gotten so far, we can still stop the process. You may look, see, feel, understand — but somehow you don’t react, neither debating nor disputing, not holding on. You let go. No comment, neither approve nor condemn. You clearly understand that it’s not all about you, it doesn’t mean anything to you, and that it doesn’t have any sense or significance by itself. That it’s empty, that it doesn’t mean anything at all. You’re aside, you’re away.
Yeah, you know something. Sometimes it feels good, sometimes unpleasant — sometimes it hurts. But no feeling belongs to you, every feeling is just a feeling, that’s all. It comes, it is, and it goes away again, just like everything else.
You know what all this was about — your own stupidity and ignorance — confusion about your state, your situation. You let the shapes and moods occur. You started discussing and watching. There were some feelings.
It is still possible to stop here. Yet it is now possible to disrupt this interdependent chain, remain calm and still, stay in the best available state, pleasant and joyful.
Because if now, as a result of these feelings and sentiments, the wishes and desires appear, the willingness and the temptations emerge, cravings and affections are taking place, “for me!”, “for myself!” — the utmost importance of self — then there is no way to stop, prevent or withhold anymore. Then the unstoppable downturn will begin, then there will be no more exit.
It’s like a mountain river that has finally reached edge of an abyss and scattered from there as a waterfall. It’s like excitement over the last boundary that unintentionally is breached out. There’s nothing left to help here, there’s no way anyone can rescue or save anything anymore.
There will inevitably come all the hells, the incessant inconveniences and the sufferings, will be thrown outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Can get rid of this reason

Actually, it’s all pretty scary.
Because all that what is wanted and done, all this is done and wanted only for you, by yourself and for yourself. All the wishes, intentions and doings are coming only from someone who has created them by himself, created for himself, thought of himself, but who is not really there.
It’s something that doesn’t have any significance for anyone, with no connection to reality. It’s something that doesn’t exist, which is an illusion, a fiction, an imagination. And then that image requires, wants, hopes and operates. And then it suffers.
It’s really pretty horrible, but it can get rid of it. Maybe you could just think about, what you really want. You don’t want to get drunk or get high. You don’t want sex, you don’t want money, you don’t want all women to love you, or that all men adore you. It’s all an external, self-imagined world, it’s all addiction to circumstances, just about what you see, hear, understand, feel.
In fact, you’d like to be happy and satisfied, you want to be good, you want to be happy and free. This is your fundamental desire, purpose and aim. Everything else is just the capabilities and the tools to achieve it.
Having selfishness, self-embracing oneself, being of its own importance is just one feeling, one imagination. You can get rid of this feeling or the imagination.
It can be noticed how feelings can go very quickly for personal, rather selfish. (I feel, I like, I don’t like it.) Very easily identified with their own feelings. (I’m angry, I’m sad.) Yet no feeling belongs to anyone, anyone may seem to feel something, but no one is the feeling.
The feelings are just what someone “feels”, maybe what he “feels like” and which is why he doesn’t really have a “real”, and that doesn’t have to be taken seriously either. It’s like a game the kids play and then sometimes ask if it’s now from the game or for real.
But this illusion of oneself feeds the great and disgusting ego, selfishness, self-admiration, self-justification and superiority over others, the misconceived aristocratism, in which is considered to be more intelligent, better and more accurate than anyone else, seeing mistakes and shortcomings only in others, plus endless self-justifications.
It is especially sad that if somebody is feeling oneself superior, there starts ridiculing, mocking and paralysing others. It is sad because grinning and malice toward others will not help anyone nor make anyone better, neither the malicious nor the one on whose account it is being done. There won’t become friends with that, there won’t come good thing from it, on the contrary, the hatred spreads.
Every contact, each relationship, each intercourse is inevitably a conflict in which confronting and colliding different people, different worlds, perceptions, expectations, wishes, deliberations, hopes, opinions, assessments and attitudes. Any relationship is inevitably a disaster.
L. Pirandello has described it beautifully: When I communicate with you, at least four characters interact. Because I don’t communicate with you, I communicate with my imagination about you. And you will inevitably communicate with your imagination about me. And even if we would like to improve this situation somehow and I would try to communicate with you as you imagine me to imagine you, then it all would get even more hopeless.
There comes, however, a very important understanding of this. Whatever they say, no matter how they feel about you, whatever they think of you, it’s all not about you. These all are the perceptions of those who say, these are just attitudes and opinions about you. Be these opinions, attitudes and statements then paralysing or approving, they don’t need to be taken personally.
Adequate communication, understanding each other, is already basically impossible. We admire and fear, love and hate still our own imaginations.
Of course, there may arise a question of whether there is any need to think, say, do or wish at all, if all we see and feel is only our perception, if it all lies only on our self-consciousness, with no relation to reality and that doesn’t really exist. If it’s all wrong, if we don’t understand the reality, wouldn’t it be better to give up all kinds of deliberations, desires, opinions, thoughts and doings? They’re just misleading, breaking and stirring both us and everyone else…
There might be two ways of being or living: whether to live with all of this, to be involved, to be imprisoned in this, — or to be out of it, to be free.
You may, of course, contribute, worry and wrestle, fear and rejoice, enjoy and gain, insult and disrupt, prosper and frustrate; be in this matrix, in this illusion, in these customs, agreements, commemorations, game rules, norms, beliefs, taking all this seriously, in personal, heartfelt…
But you may also be away from it, to see, to understand and to feel without letting disrupt himself, to smile at the most exhibition of it. A clear vision and right understanding will not preclude the doing, on the contrary. It lets you do everything right; do exactly what you need to do, what needs to be done, without clamping, without catching results, without wanting to achieve anything.

Lao-zi: Who achieves, recedes. When got ready, go away. Let them think it went by itself.

We could wake up and start living instead of playing that game. It can’t be defeated anyway; from it can’t even stand out. You’re tied to responsibilities, promises, you’re indebted, you feel guilty, you’re ashamed, you’re scared. Of course, you can’t give up on it all at once, but you can start to reduce it all, cheerfully, friendly, with compassion.
Knowledge does not interfere with, although this is not particularly needed. You can still admire the sunset, at the same time knowing that the same sun somewhere else is going to rise, or it shines to someone right in the head. You just know and realise that an event isn’t meant to you, that it’s not going to take place for you or because of you, and that’s why you don’t need to be complacent, insulted or upset. You may also be rejoiced by someone’s lottery victory, while knowing very well that this victory consisted of the small casualties of many other people. You can be rejoiced by a child or a beautiful young person, knowing perfectly naturally that in a hundred years it will be dirt or ash. But there is no particular benefit from such knowledge.
Everything comes and goes away, everything is temporary, nothing is permanent, everything will change. To be free from something is not a loss, because there was nothing to get rid of, because nothing persists.

Lao-zi: The world is empty. Like bellows. Every move gives a result.

Five obstacles

There are five obstacles or brakes, hindrances on the way to this release. One could say about them, too, that these are five stupidities or ignorances, five childish or bullying things.
The ignorance also has its own reasons and conditions to appear. We can be stupid or unaware of the multiple things, but if they don’t relate to anything, if they don’t have a chance to appear, they will remain unnoticed and there will follow no consequences. As in case the seed, the germ can start and sprout only with the corresponding conditions, so our stupidity can only become obvious if there are conditions for it.
A lot comes from thinking. What we think, it will come, because we create the conditions for it with our thoughts, we feed it, prepare soil for that soil. And if we have stupid thoughts, in the appropriate conditions it may start to grow into a pretty big obstruction, bullying and stirring.
It’s not even stupidity, it’s mostly just ignorance. We haven’t realised something or didn’t understand, we just don’t know a lot of things. Everything will not be known and there is no need for that, but it is mostly enough to understand that there are still very much of what we do not know and will never know.
But we ourselves are not an obstacle to ourselves. Nobody’s “self” is greedy, contemptuous, lazy, uneasy or suspicious. We may accidentally let by our stupidity and ignorance have these obstacles, but they don’t belong to us and we’re not them.
These obstructions come and go, they just need to detect, to be noticed. It’s not easy. We don’t want to see them, we hide them from ourselves, because we don’t want to admit our own stupidity and misconception, imprisonment and dependence. In many cases, these obstructions may become obvious through some new or different circumstances, in some kind of abnormal situation or in relation to, some book reading or watching a movie, due to someone randomly poked by a remark, during meditation or other practice.
Living and being constantly in one and the same normal routine and in an environment where nothing new happens, these obstructions may not come up, everything seems to be normal and correct. That’s why we need to change something, from time to time, go somewhere else, see something else, be somehow different, change the environment, conditions. Some unexpected event or accident may prove equally valuable and necessary. Thus, ourselves will be better understood, and these obstructions will also be noticed.
All you need to do is to detect them, to take notice and then to do something to eliminate them. These are serious things, their denial or any kind of justification or, in the case of their appearing, accusing or insulting someone else might be the most avoided things that could be done.
In general, there are five of these obstacles and everybody has usually one’s own favourite, which is frequently the most hidden or, on the contrary, the most justified:

Greed — “Yes, I want it, because I need it!”
Contempt — “But it is disgusting, strange, bad, evil…!”
Laziness — “I don’t have to do anything, I’m the oldest/the youngest/the weakest/the most ill here…”
Unrest — “This job has to be done! If I don’t do it, it will not be done!”
Suspicion — “Do you believe the wolf’s talk…”

They can, of course, be named, counted and classified in various ways, but they are all with us all the time, naturally.
Let’s take a closer look at them.

Greed

The first obstacle is any desire, need, greed, desire, craving — whether for the money, career or recognition, for some thing or person, car or house, woman or man; whatsoever or whoever. Also, wanting to gain power over someone, to make someone miss you, to make somebody suffer because of yourself, to make somebody dependent. Everything is involved through this desire and willingness.
As well as good and right wishes and desires are to obstruct. Love or respect, affection or belief may be obstructions, including affection to your teacher or parents, affection to your child, successor or student.
It may also be some kind of food or drink, something without living seems to be impossible, with some substance, coffee or tea, alcohol, tobacco, cannabis or whatever addiction, sex and all related obviously. But these may also be certain living conditions, some standards which are neither wanted nor could not be waived, like warm water or Internet connection. It may also be some event in the past that is missed, some dream of future, or some place somewhere you’d like to be. Something that is important and inevitable, which you should have all the time: certain books, music or art collection, whatever.
It may also be involved with some kind of manners or rituals, some kind of superstition, numbers or astrological signs, some kind of holy thing, a talisman, a sign, a symbol, a word, a place, a situation, a man, a tree, a holy place, a temple, a church, which seems to you inevitable and extremely important. It may be a religion, belief, prejudice, principle, ideal, theory, teaching, treatment, the way of living, whatever.
Already that you like anything, appreciate something or someone might be an obstacle. Also, believing in goodness, good doing can be affectionate and stuck.
That all can hold you, can stuck you, and obstructs plain view and understanding.
It is like to see everything through this pleasant, beautiful, worthy, like through the pink or light blue glasses, as through the coloured water.
It hinder, stir and brake. And it can be vacated by looking at things purely and clearly, as they have just be, putting aside our selves and our assessments, being aside.

Contempt

The second major obstacle is contempt, reluctance, irritation, hatred, intolerance, maliciousness. It’s just considering that something is spooky, condemning, discouraging, disparaging, ridiculous. Just as grinning, smirking, humiliating someone, tauntingly talking about someone.
Contempt or intolerance is the opposite side of the first obstacle, affection, in which may also heavily remain stucked. It doesn’t matter if you like something or you hate it. In both cases, you let irritations come to you, you collect them, you keep them, and you let them interfere with you.
Disgusting may seem someone’s language or dialect, a nation or a colour of skin. A repulsion may provoke someone’s manners or habits, origin or hobby, religion or conventionality, lifestyle or addiction. You might want to intervene in someone because of that, to teach someone, to get that person on the right path, and not even maliciously, but only doing good.
The despisal of someone or something may be so embraced that you don’t even notice it. It may be even considered to be natural that some nations, lands, politicians or heads of state must be despised and ridiculed. The same goes for various human characteristics and tendencies, of course.
Of course, there are things that we don’t like, whether there is some smell or taste, phenomenon or change, person or thing, situation or event, but you don’t have to stick to or deal with them, can be free from such influences. Making a decision about someone doesn’t say anything about others, it says something about you.

E. Roosevelt: Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

In fact, there are very few things that could make us nervous, complacent, worrying, unrest or something for what we have to be warned. These are all just our own feelings, thoughts, opinions and imaginations.
Such feelings should not be shared or distributed. It doesn’t all help anyone or fix anything for you or anyone else. There’s a lot of turmoil, you make just a noise.
There are two important “discoveries” that are often hard to bear, or hard to understand, and which can therefore irritate and excite us and which is why we want to talk to others and tell, share, and proclaim them. Both are stupid.
One is the discovery that there are differences and the other is that everything is changing. Let’s take a closer look at them.
Yes, there are differences. We will notice that when we meet with something or someone different or special, unprecedented, and discover that not everyone is everywhere and always the way we had thought, believed, expected or knew. That there are other people, different opinions or knowledge, assessments or beliefs, understanding or faith, that there are other ways of life, nations, cultures, customs, other manners and practices.
And then we’re talking about how it was to us, what we felt, how we were surprised, etc.
In fact, things like that shouldn’t upset anyone or get excited. People are different. There is no need to compare anything or anyone with your own imaginations, assessments or anything at all.
You thought whatever, but now you got something more and more, but why get upset? The cause of such irritation was simply a stupidity that came from ignorance. Talking about such discoveries, proclaiming and sharing others is the disclosure of your own stupidity. You don’t need it.
The second one is an “important discovery” that something has changed, that something is not anymore what it was before.
It’s the same stupidity. As should every thing must stay the way you ever saw it or felt or knew or the way it was in your childhood or whenever.
Why to irritate, to be angered or offended because now it is no longer the same as before, and then to declare and to talk about it to all, to annoy everybody. It’s especially stupid.
Everything is changing, nothing remains the same, neither are you. You can’t blame anyone.
One of the weirdest, but also the strongest feelings, is the desire to keep oneself clean, to be pure, to come out purely, to clean up — both literally and figuratively. As if all around you should be filthy, disgusting, dirty, and as if you would be like an innocent flower in the middle of it. It is an affection to oneself, self-love, self-admiration, and getting rid of it is a true ordeal.
Many people live in a bubble like that, believing themselves all cleaner and better, the most beautiful, skilled and smarter, and the others are despicable, pity, and then they are trying teaching the others endlessly.
The first two obstacles, greed and contempt, are In that sense similar, as in the both cases there may be imagined that something good and right should be done in order to improve the world, forgetting that this world has been created and imagined by yourself. You’re just stucked into your own thoughts and imagintions, with your own greediness and/or contemptuous.
So what are you gonna hate about, what you don’t like? Your imagination? Yourself?
Yes, this obstruction may also be self-hatred, self-pity, bitterness, self-deprivation. There are people who live in self-denial, complaining, as others are envolving in self-demeanour and praise. In both cases there is, of course, a mistake and they are stuck.
All potential obstructions can’t be counted on the first of these two, and perhaps enough of these examples, would be enough for anyone to notice them by themselves and to discover something about them.
This despise and denial can be released. It could be realised that it was just self-skilling against something or someone. It may be realised that being against something or someone doesn’t mean anything, so nothing will change. You’re just gonna heated yourself up, you’re full of your own power, trying to press and push your way.
It’s like a boiling water under constant pressure that doesn’t let anything clearly be seen. For releasing that, peace will help, just and lightly take. You don’t have to fight, don’t have to explain, don’t have to prove anything. Can be freely and joyfully, well and worrylessly.
Weak people revenge, strong people forgive, intelligent people ignore.

Laziness

The third barrier is laziness, boredom, fatigue, distraction, indifference, negligence, letting go. You don’t care, you’re not interested. Everything seems pointless, useless, unnecessary, wasting. As with previous obstructions, such laziness may not be clearly and everywhere noticeable. A person may externally be very straightforward, careful and decent, but in his home, car or garage there is dirt and disorder.
It is quite typical of being used and tightened to create an external impression, while letting the inner confusion grow over the head. Of the justifications, as usual, there is no shortage. (Ah, who still sees, for who this things are, it’s my home, I live like I want. What’s the point I’m cleaning it up, soon it’s all mess again?)
Unfortunately, with this kind of recklessnesses, you create obstacles and humiliate yourself. The inner confusion and filth will not allow to focus on important things, to clearly understand or to see them properly. Little of it — the laziness and carelessness which is considered to be your own personal and internal affair may easily come out and manifest elsewhere and in another, totally unforeseen manner.
Neglecting surroundings will inevitably affect other areas. That’s how you start neglecting other things soon, because you feel like it’s more convenient. Many of the small minks may eventually become one of the great barrage and carelessness.
And again, it may be very difficult to notice it, because everything starts with very little things. (Why to fix the bed in the morning? You’re gonna mess it up tonight.) And that’s how it goes.
If you don’t move your body, it’s gonna be powerless and you can’t handle it. If you don’t care about your mind, thoughts and feelings, then they gonna be useless, you can’t cope with them either. Your living will be covered with dust, because you’re not bothered to deal with it, but at the same time your consciousness, your mind and your thoughts, will become dusty as well, without noticing or knowing it.
The carelessness of oneself leads inevitably to carelessness of everything. And soon you’ll give up everything, don’t do anything anymore, everything seems meaningless and useless, and the depression, the fatigue, the distraction takes place.
It’s like an assertive, dirty, rotting pond where won’t be able to see through any more. It’s very easy to sink into this sticky, warm, comfortable mud, for that is just nothing to do.
The feeling that nothing makes sense is a similar illusion and a mistake like that everything has a point. To conquer this, continuous and sharpened attention will be helped with the necessary energy.

Unrest

The fourth obstacle is vain turmoil, anxiety, fuss, worrying; wanting to intervene, to control, to keep an eye on, to do everything; want to change something, to get somewhere, get away from somewhere, get something done, get ready. Also fear and uncertainty that there will not be enough, cannot cope, will not cope. Wanting to explain, to express your opinion, to teach someone, to put one in the right place, to tell to everyone something, to make the final decision, to punish someone, to expel, to give the ax.
Everything seems to move very fast, there’s no proper time nor place for anything, all is in progress, nothing gets done.
Often, it comes with a series of repeatedly circling stories that you are talking to yourself, with which you are tortured and bothered, including guilt for something that doesn’t give peace.
Again, such restlessness may not appear always and in every respect. For instance, there may be anxiety for one’s child, letting the working things stay in peace and almost indifferently, and sometimes quite the opposite.
Such unrest or dissatisfaction may arise quietly and unnoticed. Thoughts wander around uneasily, never stops or concentrate on anything, all the time as if they want something, nothing to be satisfied with. Sometimes worrying about what happened, sometimes the anxiety of the upcoming events. It may also be an anxious feeling that somewhere or someone is going to have some important events right now and you don’t know anything about them and you have to immediately contact, communicate, watch the news, etc.
Such anxiety disorder can lead to an insanity if you don’t notice it at the right time and nothing is done about it. In moderate form, it’s quite natural.
It pays to observe your moods and mind movements, to notice how they sometimes revolve around a totally unhelpful question. You can learn a lot about it, understand what and how unrest can occur. Noticing these patterns, paying attention to them, understanding… And let them go.
They’re just your own thoughts, nothing else. They don’t belong to you or to anyone, they have no value, you don’t have to keep them. You hurt yourself, if you make them more important, if you associate yourself with them and tell about them. You don’t need it.
It’s like an incessant waves on the water that don’t clearly let you see inside.
To get rid of it, it is best to take vacation, calm down, abandon, dismantle. The final release can only be done through deep inner peace.

Suspicion

The fifth and last obstruction in this list is suspicion, doubtfulness, distrust, scepticism. This is one of the most powerful obstructions. Nothing is believed, no one is trusted, nothing is sure.

(Everyone wants to let me down, everyone cheats and lies, everywhere there are secret plans and conspiracy, smuggling and matching. All the officials are corrupted, all politicians are cheating, there’s something else behind the curtains, nothing’s ever what it looks like. We are only toys to play, only fools and naive trusting and believing, wise in contrast, maintain a sober mind and doubt everything.)

This often leads to the disparity and laughing at these “fools”, with which the attitude is amplified in turn.
Such an incessant doubt, discredit, suspicion and mistrust inhibits and paralyses all kinds of action and cooperation. If you always have to be afraid that someone can let you down, steal something from you; if you can’t trust your closest people; if you have to keep an eye on everything, you’ll get to a situation where important and necessary things come to a stop, and new thoughts and ideas are not started at all, pessimism is taking place. You are sure that nothing’s going to work out anyway.
Such doubt and suspicion hinder sincerity, trust and respect for other people, different views and beliefs. Not believing, not able to see or understand if something is really done and offered, helped and supported simply by good hearts, without striving for any kind of benefit, without willingness to get anything. The less clear are the motives and requests of other people, the more they are suspected and mistrusted.
It could lead to a kind of persecution mania, paranoid thinking, incessant and constant fears.
This also includes doubt in oneself, unnecessary self-analysis, hesitation and uncertainty. (Am I still on the right track, do I still fit, if I’m being counted, if I’m not impressed by what they think?)
It may lead to the desire to avoid communication at all, be hidden, concealed, withdrawn, away from everything and away. Of this, serious communication problems, severe introversion, autism etc may evolve.
The greatest mistake is the fear of making mistakes, being wrong, the lack of self-confidence. And all of this is the use of mind as an obstacle. It’s like poisoned water in which nothing can grow, flourish or bear fruit.
Against that, trust, friendliness, conviction, confidence, sincere commitment are recommended.

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In order to remove all these obstructions, there is most assistance from full attention and awareness. It is a sharp concentration of attention, full focusing precisely on what is happening, which is just taking place, which is just on hand. With such mindfulness, it is simply and plainly seen through everything, peacefully, without surprise, without thinking or analysing.
Such a sharpness of consciousness, full awareness should be constant, all the time in a functioning state of mind.
The second good assistant is pure and clear wisdom. It’s not just the thinking that wanders around and is aimed at objects, it’s rather an intuition, an understanding, like a flashlight in a dark room. First of all, the realisation what it is, then the vision and understanding of which it is made up. Then the “self” and everything related to it will be removed, then there will be sight and understanding that everything will just come and go and will not happen to anyone. The highest level, however, has been achieved if there is nothing more in mind, if consciousness is totally empty and independent, completely open and aware. Then there’s no need for a teacher anymore.
The third important assistant is the power, the force, the might. It brings immediately to the moment, to the present, puts energy into all kinds of doing, brings the whole into everything. This is an indispensable effort to be constantly in the moment, to be present, right now and here. It will also remove and neutralise the five obstructions that we were talking about.
Then it will be clear. We don’t have to become anyone, we don’t have to change anything, somehow move or develop, progress or achieve. We can be just as we are.

Do what you want

Before every action, before every move, there is the intent, the will, the willingness to do it, to say it.
Every action has consequences. It’s a karma, but there’s nothing mystical about it. Karma is an act, together with all the resulting consequences.
You can’t say “I didn’t mean to say that!” – Yeah, you did. You said that. Maybe you didn’t want the consequences that followed, and that’s a pretty big difference.
The same does every thing, every activity and event. Every sentence, every word is an act. Every move, a glance, smile, smirking is already an act. Every breath, every step is deliberate action and has consequences.
Everything we do is inevitably on purpose, not accidentally. At least we could do, we could count on it, keep it in mind.
In fact, every thought is an act, already. Before something is planned, it was already in the mind, in your thoughts, unavoidably, at least for a moment, inevitably.
Every idea changes the world. Every thought has consequences, karma. Thoughts are as real as any other things, events or phenomena. Everything comes from consciousness, from mind, and everything has the consequences.
The mind creates what it thinks. Do what you want, but then you really want to do what you do. Can be thought, can be acknowledged, can be entirely in what is just being done, what is just going to be done, up to the most pivotal moves, up to the smallest things, always, all the time, constantly, in every situation. Of course it is a complicated effort initially; of course, no one will get to it immediately and just as easily, but it can be reached.
That is why it’s important to develop, practice, train yourself so that the mind does not react loosely and accidentally to the prevailing stimulus, would not go away, not spread out, but could able to make the right choices and decisions, to see and understand the nature and structure of things, preventing to do anything unintentionally or accidentally.
Only undeveloped mind is weak, helpless, dependent on circumstances, incentives, illusions, perceptions.
It would be better to make sure that you really want what you do, really, in the sense, to understand it and to be aware of it.
Do what you want, but then do really want to do what you are doing.

Nothing to do

Actually, there is no need to suffer, can be freely, everything is all right.
We are very weak. Almost every circumstance can kick us out of the track — someone’s saying something, we’re discovering something, seeing something, hearing, whatever. We depend on circumstances.
The reason that creates all these suffering and dislikes is a very void and tiny, small and soft thing. It doesn’t even need thoroughly talk about, there’s no need to worry about it, there’s no need to pay even slightest attention about it.
All these disagreements, sufferings, concerns and troubles do not touch you personally. Look at them from the distance and you can see, much more easily and more clearly, that they have no connection to you. Get up, step out, don’t worry about yourself, don’t take part, don’t take anything personally, don’t worry.
The rain doesn’t mean to upset you, nothing’s gonna make you feel nervous about it. Only you can let yourself be affected, it’s just your decision and your chance — whether you let something get on you or not, whether it’s going to affect you or not. Only you can do that, and only you can avoid that.
There’s nothing to do and there’s no need to do anything anyway. If you leave yourself out, there’s no one who can get hurt. If you’re not there, no one can harm you, hurt you, insult you either. That’s how simple it is.
If something irritates you, something disturbs, makes nervous, something unpleasant — or pleasant — happens, you don’t have to do anything, anyhow to react. It just doesn’t matter.
You can notice, recognise — and forget. You’re not responsible, it’s not about you, not because of you. You don’t have to react always, you don’t have to do anything right in every situation, to want something or to change or to improve or to get upset at all.
Any kind of affection, taking seriously, being involved, is addiction. Anger and hatred are addictions, like all kind of feelings, needs, wishes and desires. Nothing has to touch you personally, you don’t have to associate yourself. You know, you recognise — and let go.
In the world you see and feel, there are all kinds of phenomena, people, animals, trees, clouds, etc, but they are not you, your personality, and it has no connection with you, all the world lives and exists the way it is, and let it be.
Wanting is what’s going to ruin everything. If you want something that doesn’t want you, if you want to go somewhere you’re not invited, it’s gonna stir, it breaks. Wrong wantings, pressing your willingness, being within your wishes and hopes — this is the main cause of all suffering, inconvenience, troubles and accidents.
Any desire or wish is a bad idea from the very beginning. Whoever wants or craves something is already in trouble, without something, not satisfied, not in complacency.
Complacence is not an indifference nor agreeing with everything, approving everything. You’ll be satisfied with yourself first. You are satisfied with who and how you are, and don’t let to disrupt yourself from anything or anyone, don’t wish anything. You don’t put yourself in this world, you don’t think or judge anything about it.
And what is right then? There is no need to want or hope anything. Let them want, let them wait and hope, let them call. Come on, be visible, just be open. Let the chances and opportunities come if they want to come. There is no need to despise or rule out anything. It’s sufficient just to look, pay attention, be interested. There is no need to wish or want anything, everything is possible anyway.
Do what is needed to do, fulfil normal duties, be present and necessary, on the course and for granted, without being pushed anywhere, without competing with anyone. You can still see everything and feel and communicate as you like, in your own way, with your own thoughts, judgements, why not.
It can also help to win friends and influence people, by recognition and thanks, praising and admiring, and paying special attention to their personality precisely. One of the most powerful influencers is to say or write a person’s name, because everybody loves to hear and see it. Name is the most direct link to self.
Such means of influence are not quite honest and also readily obvious, which is why they would not want to be particularly advised. By the way, the name and personality are really linked, and in the case of a serious spiritual turning point or “rebirth”, a new name is often obtained.
It doesn’t have any connection with yourself, anyway. No matter how much you are recognised, no one really cares about your wishes or your feelings. No one appreciates or misses you, no one threatens you, no one hates you, no one has anything to do with you. You don’t have to worry about it at all.
Nothing to do.

Lao-zi:

If there’s no wisdom,
there are no worries.

How far are yes and no?
What’s good and what’s bad?
What to fear and what to regret?

Pointlessly, endlessly.

Joy and party in spring.
People have all come out.
I’m just quiet
like a kid without laughs,
indifferently, irreversibly.

Everyone has so much,
I don’t have anything,
confused, stupid.

Everyone is in the light,
I’m only dim.
Everyone is so smart,
I’m only worryless
like an unstable wave.

Everybody knows what they’re doing,
I’m only primitive,
I’m only different.

I love my mother.

Matrix

You have been built the world yourself, constructed, imagined, built the matrix where you can behave and react, where you can anger, offend, deceive, gain, enjoy, rejoice, all through you. You’re looking for it all, you find and get it all, you need it yourself, not the others.
You can freely think that you are the most important thing, that your feelings, thoughts, opinions, views are right, that you do everything right, that you’re the one that everyone should be counting with. You made your little soft thing hard and important, with your self-consciousness, and you’re proud of it. You made yourself upset and excited. It seemed so natural, it let to live, it was something that could really be sure of. (Who you can still more trust if not yourself? You are the one who knows!)
Without such self-confidence, without believing in oneself, we might go crazy, jump off the roof.
In fact, doubting in this kind of belief and trust in some way, is very revolutionary, even dangerous, it cannot like anyone. Every time someone’s personality is touched, irritation and unrest immediately occurs. (Isn’t I right?)
In order to simplify life, we often make generalisations, simplifications, that there should not be something new to invent, to investigate, to find out again. Put in place, classified by some kind of external attributes, and it’s gonna be easier. Mostly, the generalisations are disparaging. (All blonds are stupid! All men only cheat and lie!)
And in contrary, it may also be believed that, for instance, Catholics or Buddhists are somehow better people or that dark eyes give testimony of some distinct passionate. One may think that good cultivation or noble origin gives some kind of trustfulness or may considered to be particularly attractive if born under certain astrological sign. You can believe anything.
But if it becomes clear that it is not true; if one does not meet those expectations; if somebody is not like that, then it will be like deceived, betrayed. And the blame is, of course, the one who was hoped for, who was considered better than he really was. There are even rare cases when somebody is trying to get avenged or hurt another, despite the fact that in fact he was wrong.
Actually, you had the wrong idea, you believed some signs or characteristics, you had categorised, but now you accuse other person and annoy him that he wasn’t as you had thought and imagined.
And who is guilty for that? – In the worst of all of this, your personality tend to get caught. Because you must be always right, even if your mistakes were obvious.
But just try to draw someone’s attention to it, tell someone something like that. Anger and offension are guaranteed. Nobody likes if the self-confidence in any way being questioned.
We have grown so much with our own discretions, with our convictions, with our matrix, to be regarded as ourselves. All of this will be taken in person. (How he dared to be different from I had thought!)
But there’s nothing to do. There was also a talk about how we often suffer because other people change. (Why don’t you love me anymore?)
Well, he/she loves you or doesn’t love, but that matters only to you. You care about it, you miss it, but who are you? Maybe you’ve changed. You’re not the one that you were ten years ago, even yesterday you weren’t exactly who you are today.
Who is the one who suffers and feels unpleasant? A lot that ever happened and meant to you, now the time has gone on, now you’ve got other things important. You’ve changed, your thoughts and opinions have changed, you’re not the one you used to be.
But who are you really, you could ask. – And you can see that there is no real “you” at all. It’s never been and will never be. All your opinions, thoughts, assessments, values change and that’s natural. You are the author of your thoughts, opinions, prejudices and assessments, you have created them yourself.
They’re not you, you don’t have to think of yourself, it’s just your creation, your story that you’ve been telling yourself all the time. It was another imagination that could also be dismissed.
Every sentence that starts with the words “But I…”, “But for me…”, “Why me…”, contains an inevitably erroneous and false idea.
Your world view, principles, opinions and willingness, all your wishes and pleasures consist solely of your own imaginations, you have acquired, learned, read, heard or seen and built, let them come into yourself.
It’s the fence, the matrix you’ve put up around you, through which you see and valuate everything, make decisions and act. Or, using another metaphor, it’s a cage, built by yourself. This is an illusion, your imagination, and there is no connection with reality in it.
Yet you decide and you act, you want precisely on the basis of what you think and appreciate. And then you wonder if the results of your decisions and actions are not what you thought and appreciated.
The reason is quite obvious: you had considered your opinions, thoughts and assessments as real things, you had believed you were right.
How to get rid of it? Very simple — just remove that matrix, that cage, the fence. Let it go. Look straight, purely and clearly. Don’t think about anyone or anything, don’t appreciate anything. Nothing to do. It stirs, cheats and distorts and doesn’t let you see.
What’s your business, what one might think, why should someone’s opinion, or something at all, give you something to upset you? It doesn’t touch you in any way. And similarly, it doesn’t matter what you’re just feeling.
Who should care about what you think about something or think about? If no one has been interested in this, there’s no need to talk about it either. And if someone even was interested, then probably only to get confirmation for their own opinions and thoughts in order to get a confirmation that they were right, that they were thinking the same way. (Sometimes it’s also called friendship.)
If what you see, read or hear, don’t fit in with what you had imagined and thought, it means only that your imaginations and opinions didn’t match what you saw, read or heard, that’s all.
In what you see or hear, there is nothing wrong, it’s just what you see and hear, but it doesn’t have to touch you somehow. Don’t have to rage in anger, turn around or fix, don’t have to teach anyone, make something clear. May calmly think about it and redress or rectify your own imaginations and opinions.
Many times, it has been said, “Change yourself — and the world will change”. In terms of living and being alive, the change is very important. Life is changing. Everything changes.
It would be even better to give up of all of these ideas. You are not your feeling or thought, the imagination or the opinion, they don’t belong to you, they’re not yours. You don’t really need to count on them, keep them, they’re not worth anything, keeping them alive creates only suffering.
In fact, we have installed this program for ourselves thanks to cultivation, education and experience. We have thus shaped the world picture, the world view, and we are using it to live and to be. From time to time, we are still downloading and installing new versions, getting something more to know, acquiring new experiences.
Alas, we tend to forget that the picture we see, this world picture, is just a picture, but not the world itself. It’s just a user’s screenshot, the user interface we’ve already got with the program. Of course, we have made this picture more convenient and more beautiful, changed colours, added more frequently used features.
But with the real world, with real life, this picture has quite a little to do. It’s just some model, a convergence. We could already understand that when we notice that many of its functions simply don’t work. We could realise that the whole program meant to help us live and exist was already started to write from the wrong expectations and assumptions. But we believe it’s right and adequate and we can get into a fight with someone in the name of our world view, we may even be willing to die for it.
Even worse, we consider it our own, we even think that we ourselves are the self-image, the world picture, this world view.
A. Schopenhauer wrote a whole book about it — “World as a Will and Imagination”.
In fact, there is still option for living, seeing through tricks, through all these illusions, looking at it all like just as a user’s interface, and to feel a much more real joy, actually. (That’s the choice: whether to take a blue or a red pill.)
Sufferings and inconveniences are frictions, scratches, getting hurt when your matrix collides with different circumstances and they are not consistent with your perceptions, expectations or opinions. That’s what makes you miserable, that’s the unrest.
Not you suffer, but your imaginations are suffering. You don’t have to pay attention to your imaginations, you can just let them be. They don’t really have any significance. Well, you were imagining something, very nice, but then it turned out that you imagined it wrong, so what? It is not necessary to clamp into every one of your own imaginations, to interact with it or to take it personally, to confront with it, to offend because of it or to do anything about it. It doesn’t matter at all, you can get rid of it, it doesn’t mean anything, doesn’t have to hurt anyone, either.
Similarly, there is no need to be anywhere else, away, to worry or to rejoice because of what is somewhere in the past or in the future, to gnash teeth for some sort of past happenings or to brag with old victories, to fear of some future horrors, or impatiently waiting for great happiness. You can think or fear, hope or worry and plan whatever, but actually everything goes differently than you thought, hoped or planned.
Don’t need that either. Don’t put yourself into your thoughts, your intentions, your concerns, your fears and your hopes.
All moods, all things and people, all changes and events are temporary, they come and go, they never offer full satisfaction and they don’t belong to you or to anyone at all. Events and circumstances just happen, come together, come up and there’s no way we can control them.
However, we can control how we adopt them, how they can affect us.

Being in the moment

Everything that ever happened is over by now. Maybe somebody remembers, someone could have done it somehow, something could be left of it, but there’s nothing we can do about it anymore. It’s over, there’s no way to change it, there’s no need to worry about it, it’s gone and it doesn’t exist anymore.
It is true, of course, that we do not have much other means to think and organise our lives than what we are, what we have already experienced and understood, all these past experiences and lessons, the path we’ve passed and left behind.
Nor do there really are important experiences and understandings, events and happenings so endlessly and incomprehensibly. What matters is how we understand them now. Why, and how we were there, to whom and how we could there influence and mean something. This kind of understandings could change something, very much. How we are now, this is important.
There was what was, you can’t change it anymore, you can only let it go, forgive, get rid of it. Why to cry over spilt milk? There’s no need to hold on to it, it’s already gone, there’s no more, you don’t have it anymore. And you don’t have yet what may come and can come. Everything can come, but it’s just our imagination, the idea, the dream or the fear.
You can let go of the past and the future. These are illusions, perceptions, opinions, attitudes. There can be, something to do, something to change right now and here. It’s the only one what’s real.
But this current moment is also very temporary, neither will it stay, it cannot be held, it has never been before and will never come again. Therefore, there is no need to immediately react to what is happening right now, just now to the actual event, the situation, the person or whatever. It changes anyway, goes by, disappears, grows up, gets old, dies. And similarly, all kind of moods, feelings, thoughts, wishes and opinions will also be passed.
It can be seen and known how everything has come, where everything is going, without any thought or idea about it. You can see and find out how things happen right now.
You notice something, you see, hear, feel something, very accurately, very carefully and focused, as it is, not from the point of view nor on the basis of anyone else’s.
And then you understand and realise how and why it is just now, here, happening. You understand that in a very natural way, purely, immediately. You understand the causes, the situations and the conditions that created it, and you also understand why and how it will disappear again. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a matter of substance or your own imagination or mind. Was it a message or seen sight, someone’s move or saying, your memory or the idea. Everything arises and disappears, everything is temporary, depends on the conditions and we can’t control or stop that.
But if our own relationships, attitudes and perceptions will be involved with what we are seeing and of which we have just started to understand, it will immediately violate the clear understanding, there will arise miscellaneous feelings, thoughts start to run, and suffering emerges.
For really and purely, clearly and perfectly freely, something can only be understood if we have left ourselves out, when we have stepped out of it, if we staying aside ourselves; only when our attention and consciousness are sufficiently clean, unmixed, sharp and precise. Letting go, reject your own wishes, willingness, thoughts, imaginations, opinions or assessments so they would not create any feelings or relationships.
Not that, “I hear it”, but just “there’s hearing of it”; not that, “my knee hurts”, but just “there’s a pain in the knee”; not that, “I remember” but just “there’s a memory”. It’s not all about you. This is a clear vision, a clear sense and understanding.
Then the suffering and the inconvenience will also cease, then we will see and perceive, understand and understand truly and clearly. Sometimes it is also called enlightenment or waking.
What needs to be done is what needs to be done. Breathe, eat, sleep, take everyday actions, no more. More can do, but it’s not needed.

Lao-zi: The needed has to be done. The missing is useful.

Getting rid of selfishness offers the chance to see the world truly, purely, at the source data level where nothing happens personally, neither to you nor to anyone else, where everything just is and happens. Getting rid of the overarching knowledge lets to see and to know at once, as in the light of the flash, to realise everything, really and freely.
It may be difficult to understand initially. Still, it tends to appear as if there is any kind of meaning or significance, any idea, purpose or reason, as if it could or should be judged, the values and meanings of everything. But no, neither for oneself nor for anyone else, these are all just our own thoughts, imaginations and feelings. With reality, they have no connection.
And at the same time you can realise that you are nothing more than others, or more specific, more important.
There is no reasonable justification why you should have a bigger, harder, newer, more beautiful, more expensive, more fancy. Why should you get somewhere faster, before the others, earlier, why you should be better than others?
When Albert Schweitzer was asked why he always travels in the second class, he used to say: “There is not the third…”.
Survival is not the most important thing to fight for. Being is not a fight, the struggle for life is just a myth, an imagination. Anyway, all the living creatures die and to die can only those who live. The self-preservation instinct is universal in nature, wanting to be alive is natural, but it is not selfishness.
In the case of a human, however, the self-preservation instinct together with ignorance will emerge selfishness, the “self”, looking for something else, more rejoice, more happiness. Alas, it will never end, it cannot be satisfied.
No need to fight, nor to harm anyone, you can be just now and here, just as easily, lightly and freely.
There’s a very good mental practice again — do something right, do something necessary, just like that, without anyone seeing it, noticing or recognising it. Has something fallen on the sidewalk? Take it up and put it on side. Some empty plastic bag or a drinking cup left somewhere? Take it off and put it where it’s proper. Someone’s talking a tough voice, bothering people, provoking a fight? Don’t get involved, don’t start flattering in turn, you’ll make it worse. It’s not all about you, it’s all going down.
The mess is spotted by everyone. But if it’s all right, nothing’s gonna bother you, no one’s gonna pay much attention to it. No one notices, no one recognises such small things or such not doings, no one thanks nor praises you for that.

Lao-zi: Let them think it went by itself.

These are all minor things, but the world is getting cleaner and better. Actions speak louder than words.
And what’s particularly important — you feel better yourself. You didn’t get mad or offended, seeing something disturbing, you removed the alarm, you didn’t intervene in it, let it go so no one else would get upset about it.

Everything is possible

Nothing needs to be done. It’s good if you have no trouble or complaining with yourself, if you don’t have to tell anyone, nor to yourself, to prove anything or to confirm, if you don’t have to do anything at all. It’s all the way it seems to you.
You can always ask in every situation, every chance, every offer: why do I need it, why should I want to? And thus you always see everything better, more accurately and more clearly. Just keep your own person, your willingness and your desires out.
Your “I” does not disappear anywhere, you can keep using it, whatever, it’s good, too, it’s needed. You can still love yourself, appreciate yourself, but if you know it’s a scam, an illusion, you can use it much more worry-free, easier and more lightly. You’re free of it, you’re no better nor worse than others, you don’t have to prove anything, explain something, you’re not forced into anything, you’re free. Like when you dissolve the clutch and let the machine roll freely without the engine.
You can get out of this matrix, the cage, let go of it, you can see the world without any categorisation, without giving any ratings or valuations.
Yeah, it’s a feeling, but it’s just a feeling, and let it feel. I’m not the feeling, the feeling doesn’t belong to me. It just seems to me, I feel that feeling, I recognise it. I know it, it’s a familiar feeling, maybe I use it or maybe I don’t use it, let it go, no matter. But I’m not involved with it.
And the same is with all things. Nothing belongs to me, I can’t say, it’s me. I don’t feel like that, it was just a temporary design, a construction, an illusion, a myth that could be waived.
It is possible, by the way, that such an illusion of their own person is specific only to human beings, for example, the dog doesn’t have it. The dog is not worried about how he looks or what impression he leaves, but for a human being, the personality will overshadow the world and let not be seen as it is.
On Pavlov’s dog, the spit began to flow on the bell, as he remembered and linked, as he had experienced. Yet there is no connection between the bell and the food. He had this connection, and it is now a reality for the dog and he will react accordingly. The more times so that repeated, the more sure he is in it. When the bell rings, but no food comes, the dog is just a little confused.
In the case of a man, the thing is worse because his “himself” comes into play right away. When the bell rings, but no food comes, he feels like he’s been deceived, betrayed. He starts to squeal and growl, he starts fighting and demanding his rights, declaring to everyone what kind of outrage he has been experienced, as if he was personally insulted, as if it had been done specially to him, for him personally.
Unfortunately, people are taking things like that very personally. It is believed that there is some sort of regularity, some kind of legitimacy, some eternal truths and relationships. (If you have a good education, you get a good job, good salary…) And if that doesn’t happen, he’ll be insulted, disturbed, personally hurt.
We put our own person in every relationship right now, stirring ourselves into it. A person is blind and foolish in that sense, sees everything as he seems to himself, unable to take things like they are just, freely and naturally.
We are living and we can live in this world only because of others, thanks to other people and thanks to all living beings. And therefore we have no reason to hope or to ask anything, we have no right to demand anything, no reason to expect anything at all. No one promised to us anything, everything we receive is donation.
The life is a present. Nothing is guaranteed but death.

No matter

The understanding starts when you don’t demand anything anymore, you don’t want or want anything, if you understand that nothing really is needed, neither to you nor to anyone else. Why, indeed?
The answer to the question of how to be, how to take everything that’s happening around, is quite simple — don’t take it, leave it. Let the consciousness notice, let the mind understand, no more is needed, let it go, no matter.
People are being stuck in their own life, in their own instincts, feelings, imaginations, teachers, views, beliefs, opinions, deliberations. But you don’t have to tie yourself, you can let go. It doesn’t matter. If there is, then there is, if not, there is not. And so what?
With all willingness, like shadows always come with two desires: desire to be (noticed, recognised) and desire not to be (disappear, to go away). These are not existential questions in the sense of whether to be or not to be, to live or to leave the life, there is no such question at all. It doesn’t matter, you can be and you can go, all is one anyway.
Body and mind are complicated living creatures. Your body is alive and so is your mind, and it’s very clever. It’s not a person. Mind isn’t you, just like your body isn’t you. You are the one who can lead, rule and develop the both. Not you need the incentives, but your mind is looking for incentives, needs incentives, lives in incentives, and wants them more and more because it has been so developed, since the childhood, from the beginning.
If you can’t control your mind, you can’t control your life, then your mind will control your life and you’re helpless and unhappy. As just the same way you are physically helpless and inevitable when you can’t control and rule your body.
The mind needs unceasingly incentives, but the body needs, on the contrary, peace and rest. The body wants to relax, the mind wants excitement and experience. A person with an undeveloped mind and body sits most pleasantly in front of the tv, then there will be enough incentives on purpose (also beer and snacks are incentives for the mind), the body gets peace and rest.
As the failure to develop the body will result in laziness and powerless, thus the lack of development the mind will result in a nuisance — only the immediate reactions to the various stimuli.

It’s not all a miracle.

Everything is actually much easier. If we don’t understand something, if we’re going to be amazed or admire something or having strange feeling, it’s all about us, not the phenomena what made us wondering or surprised.
We ourselves are those who did not understand, we are those who were surprised, admired, confused. There’s a lot of things in the world that we don’t know, what we haven’t seen, which we haven’t heard of. (Here you could recall that most of the world is unidentified and unknowable to us.) But if we notice such things, we will be surprised, then we will wonder, how otherwise, it is so natural, so simple.
These wonders and surprises may like us or not, but they create feelings, excitements, incentives, and in these excitements and incentives we mostly live. We are looking for them and we wait them, we fear them and despise. If they create good feelings in us, we want them more, if we don’t like them, we’ll try to avoid them. We are dependent on them, we are slaves of our sensations and perceptions.
Every time we happen to hear or read something that we don’t agree with, immediately the first reaction is to argue against it, to correct it, to improve, to make something clear to anyone. As should all other opinions, all thoughts and assessments be consistent with what we think ourselves, what we imagine or appreciate.
You can’t demand the world to be in line with you, but you can be consistent with it. Sometimes they say it’s one and the same thing, that it doesn’t matter, you’re the world. So one can say that your reaction, wanting to argue, is actually something what explains the lack of balance and consistency in the world.
The wonder is always something what we had not been waiting for, which we had not known or anticipated, had not seen or not understood. It may be rejoicing or irritating, but it’s just our own stupidity and ignorance that can put us in surprise and wonder about something. That’s the sign that we were in some sense stupidity, that we could get smarter, we could start to understand something more, we could develop.
But you don’t have to react immediately, you don’t have to do anything about it, you don’t have to punish anyone for it, you don’t need to stare at it like a calf stares at new fence gate.
It always happens, all kinds of things. Something exploded, someone went crazy and killed people, someone said something, someone died. But how would that touch you? Why would you have to do something about that, think about it, get in touch with it somehow? Who insists on that? How just now and just your attitude or opinion should be useful, good, right and necessary, inevitable and decisive?
All these surprises and excitements, all unexpected situations and events that make us to act, to say, to think, are results of comparisons. You noticed a difference between your imaginations, opinions, assessments, some different circumstances, and therefore you get irritated, you want to say something, to do something about it, demand or otherwise react to it.
The easiest and the most childish way to react is to prohibit, condemn, to proclaim illicit. (Shoot them all!)
A bit less childish is an imagination, as if every thing, every activity has one and the sole, firm and permissible, legitimate and manageable way or method of how it must be how it must be done. (They cannot sing this song like that! You can’t have sex so young! It can’t be that British music is more popular in America than America’s!)
Somewhat more reasonable and also more natural is the position, as if you should be an example for all, as everybody should think, appreciate, live and behave like you. (Follow me! Act like me!)
The smarter way is to be just open, trying to understand other kinds of people, things, situations, events, different attitudes and opinions, without irritation, without stirring themselves into them. (This may even let you learn something and develop, isn’t it…)
And the most reasonable way would be to let everything live and be just as they live and be. Why couldn’t everything be the way it is? Why should you intervene? Why would that touch you?

Lao-zi: Open your mouth, argue everywhere — only worries.

All kinds of reactions, wonders, irritations, offenses and angering are the signs of weakness. They show dependence on circumstances and give testimony of overestimation oneself. They show a lack of confidence, they demonstrate one’s selfishness, foolishness, being in illusions.
Shouldn’t demonstrate them to all. Should not immediately react, comment, express your opinion, irritate, anger, argue, and thereby inform all people around of your foolishness and ignorance. Any overreaction will only give testimony of little understanding, confinement, a lack of enlightenment.
You should rather ashame and conceale such feelings and wishes. There is no benefit to anyone and the joy of such outbursts is only for those who are in the same manner with their own similar opinions, thoughts, attitudes, and who thus gain their support.
We all want something, but whether we really need it, we can think about it. If you don’t know what you want, then you don’t get what you didn’t know to want. But why would want anything? It doesn’t matter.
Of course, people want and need something all the time, for all kinds of reasons. And of course it can be used and abused for all kinds of purposes. In our current cultural tradition, perhaps, the most essential need seems to be the feeling of recognition, as to feel oneself necessary, so that it can be considered the most valuable.
But something remains behind these defilements, the darkness and the stupidity, behind selfishness, illusions and desires. There remains a feeling or knowledge of the nature of mind and the true nature of things, their initial status, the possibility to really be outside conditions and incentives, to be free and independent of them, the option to see and live, for real. There remains a reminiscence of paradise.
Continuous dissatisfaction with existing, all these surprises, wonders, sufferings, deliberations and inconveniences inevitably resemble this paradise. All of them can teach, reassure and comfort real, not like these temporary enjoyments, not like dreams or cravings that come and go like clouds. Yes, these clouds don’t let see clear skies, pure light, sun and stars, but knowing of that light and the stars will no longer disappear.
Clarity and understanding are right here and right now, absolutely without your thoughts, opinions, imaginations, without your wishes and willingness. Clarity and understanding are always there and never disappear. Action can only be taken immediately, right now and here, not in the past or in the future or somewhere else. Can be more, seeing and feeling everything in the way it all is, without attributing any meaning to it or giving assessments.
For every very first sense, in every first moment of perception or experience, at every first point, we are in the garden of Eden, in the innocence, in paradise. We see, we wonder, understand, like children, purely, directly, truly. However, at the next moment our own “self” will come into the game, and giving, on the basis of our previous experience, from our own wisdom, immediately, its assessments — you should like it or don’t like and other kind. And it’s gonna ruin everything again.
Overall, we are not particularly interested in other people, politely and moderately, of course, we ask them “how are you?”, and that’s all. What we really care is how they are about us, how important we are for them, how important they are to our relations.
And the same goes with everything. Important is the relationship — how does it affect us what it means for us, as if there could not be anything without a relationship, without assessments, without giving opinions.
Is it possible to get rid of it, is it possible to see and understand things, people, events and relationships without having to involve you in person, without that it has to mean something to you? Yeah, that’s possible.
It doesn’t mean much to you, what does anyone else think about something. Then why should somebody else get to know what you think about? What’s the difference?
You’re not special, you don’t need to consider yourself important, you don’t have to miss it, worry about it or suffer.
Yeah, it’s true that you’ve never been like that before, and you never have to be, you’re the only, unique, that’s all right. Neither will there ever be a similar sand grain or snowflake, sunset or cloud, dream or love.
Everything is changing constantly, think about it. Why should anyone consider a cloud or a sand grain somewhat special or important? Why should you consider yourself a special personality? It doesn’t matter.
The wisdom is just a property of the mind, as well as all the mind doors — hearing, touching, seeing, tasting, smelling. In our cultural context, the wisdom is highly overestimated comparing with the mind in general. When the wisdom is being developed, at school and elsewhere, the mind will also start to demand from the wisdom more and new exciting experiences. (“Learn well, make career, earn money, buy stuff, go travel, collect excitements… The more intelligent and clever you are, the more eloquently you can offer it all to your mind…”)
Wisdom and mind can be used much better, with this unbearable mind to tame, mute, staunch, divert, develop. Should not let it react as easily to every thing, does not need to pay attention to its childish wishes and cravings.
Alas, the wisdom is being carefully developed, the mind but not much, and therefore the excitement will never be satisfied, there are still needed new, more acute ones. Undeveloped, childish mind will never be satisfied.
But there’s going to be a way forward.

There’s a difference

Thoughts and moods are changing for very minor reasons. Someone came, someone went away, someone looked, someone said something. Seeing someone, noticing something, some sounds, something of music or smell, some change, whatever — and now the mood changes, thoughts and understandings change.
We are still dependent on circumstances, inevitably and involuntarily. Where are you, where did you get, what’s going on around you, who’s near you? It affects, it all makes a difference.
Landing can be heavy or light, landing on paws like cats do it, can land smoothly, and every landing has its own consequences, as well as every other thing and event. You’ve always landed where you haven’t been, maybe you used to be, but now you’re going to land again and that’s not same anymore. Nothing’s gonna be the same, and you’re not the one anymore, and everything starts again, with all the consequences.
Actually, there’s a difference. Nothing keeps repeating, every situation is new, every moment is the only one. You’ve never felt like this before, right now, and you’ll never get to feel like this again, nor can anyone else. Nothing will repeat, and it will also make a difference.
But if there was a difference, what is the right and better, the happiness or the joyfulness? They’re both going to happen to someone, to you, to me, to whoever. It is clear that there can be no universal happiness or joyfulness, and that is not possible because our selfishness is coming into the game immediately and we are already in the game without being noticed.
It can be rejoiced, at all times, and always, there’s nothing special about it. Something went wrong or succeeded, saw or heard something beautiful, understood something, you felt better, still feeling joy. But happiness, it seems to be something eternally desirable and unreachable…
That’s the way it is. The joyfulness is a feeling that may be felt, which may come. Can feel it, can be rejoiced by that coming, at any point, everywhere, always. Rejoice cannot be wanted; joy cannot be claimed or hoped; it cannot be desired. The pleasure of feeling is very real, very actual. You either rejoice, you feel joy, or you won’t.
Happiness, however, is about wanting something, longing for something, wanting to be happy, wanting to become happy, and that’s something else. Happiness is the condition that is desired, to be imagined, the dream of something which is not in present. With reality or actuality, there is no connection.
Of course, the actions have consequences, who could deny it. If you didn’t have the consequences or the results, you wouldn’t even imagine them. Why do we do anything, do something? Still to make something happen, that it would have a consequence. And there’s nothing mystical about it. There is no need to start talking about any karma or destiny right now.
If a foolish animal, an untamed mind, draws your cart, you can get into all kinds of situations, both pleasant and unpleasant. There’s nothing you can do about it. The seed was already sown, the cards were already dealt, now accept the fruits that were prepared and play with the cards you have in your hand. No need to think you were lucky or fortunate. Use the options you have in your hand and don’t worry about what you don’t have.
If the mind is clear and developed, the consequences will also follow clearly and purely like a shadow that will never leave you behind. But if the mind is distracted, then the consequences will be faded and hardly predictable.

Mind can be developed

It may be nice to see the wild horse, but there is no good of her, no benefits. The same is with untamed, undeveloped and unimplemented mind, which may unexpectedly buck up, go wander, and to make more trouble at all than to bring benefits. That’s why to train, teach and develop the mind, put it on a purposeful job, give useful tasks.
Knowing the right instructions and understanding them is not enough yet. Benefits can only come from their actual use. There are a lot of teachings and books about the mind development, from them could be acquitted with thorough knowledge, can understand how important, right and necessary things like that could be. But there is no benefits from such knowledge and understanding if they are not actually used.
The smoker, for instance, may well know and realise that giving up from that habit is really a good and the right idea, but if he does not really do it, there is nothing useful to him about that understanding. You can read a lot of instructive books, listen to lectures, study all kinds of things; you can understand good recommendations, advice, or boards, but if they don’t apply, they won’t be useful. All the good recommendations are given, some of them already thousands of years ago.
Such as swimming cannot be made clear by books, so there is no benefit from reading literature about meditation. You have to go into the water, you need to start practicing.
Every time the mind is fond of something, attention to something that is stuck in something, there has been a divide — the subject and object, viewer and observable, perceiver and perceived. Without objects, without incentives, there is nothing to be done, there is nothing to deal with; therefore, the mind is constantly looking for new stimulus, objects in which to get attached, to what to play, wander around and see and experience these incentives, seemingly coming from outside. The mind separates itself from the rest, wants to be “itself”, opposes, creating itself an illusion of the subject and object, as if something happened.
But the experience is one, there are no two sides — experiencer and experience. Experience, experiencer and experienced is one and the same, there is no difference.
The cause of all suffering and inconvenience is the separation of itself from the world, the universe, of all sorts. This is the vision of outside from oneself, it’s not understanding that everything is one, that there is no separate ones. The understanding starts with knowing that there is no separate “self”.
If you’re already one with the nature and with everything, you won’t be surprised anymore, there arise no admiration, no hate, no craving. Consciousness is common to anyone anyway — call it universal mind, unified consciousness, consensus, or whatsoever

Lao-zi: Clarity and peace are organising all.

If the mind can only react to the stimulus, it doesn’t even know, it doesn’t even want anything else. It can’t be calm, switches the tv on, plays music. If the mind doesn’t have enough incentives, it will be bored and will go to social networks to see who is there, who has posted something in the meantime, commented, likened. The mind wants to be social and communicate, to be familiar with everything, to be sure of nothing lose…
In fact, the mind is afraid of its own thoughts; it does not want to be inoperable so that thoughts start again restlessly overwhelmed with some irritating situation, memory or prevailing problem, the mind wants to get away with it. But it can’t do it in other way than disrupting these disturbing thoughts, adding different stimulus, leading thoughts and attention elsewhere, escaping from an existing situation, pulling away from what the mind is in trouble.
Of course it’s a cheap fraud. That’s how the child can be reassured, we don’t have such access, all comes back anyway and inevitably. Such cheating, distracting attention will not help anyone nor take anywhere.
As the most natural state of the water is a flat surface, so the most natural state of mind is peace of mind. Only a flat surface of the water can see through itself; only peaceful mind can perceive the world adequately, unmistakable, without the noise of its thoughts and wishes. Achieving peace of mind is one of the main objectives and goals of developing the mind — to control and tame the mind so that it does not constantly demand new and new incentives.

Lao-zi: Cracking and chasing makes mess. Expensive goods drive insane.

Peace of mind is a natural condition for the mind, but if it is not developed, if it not experienced or felt, it rather feared. Rather, the uneasy mind is considered normal and peaceful somehow weird. (How can you be so calm?)
If people start approaching the calm state of mind, they may experience the surprise, some start to flare, some begin to laugh … it feels so special.
We have two natural states of consciousness: being awake and sleeping. While we are awake, we are aware of what is happening around, and we are also aware of what our mind is doing, thinks and feels. While there are no conscious stimulus during the sleep, the way the mind wanders freely at that time and dreams.
But during the sleep there is yet another state of consciousness — deep, dreamless sleep, when the mind is silent, when the mind is totally empty of all kinds of movements, thoughts and feelings.
The same way could mind also be empty during daytime, from time to time, being empty and rest, being aware only of itself. That would then be the fourth state of consciousness, which is also very natural and necessary.
During the awake state of consciousness, it can be afforded to stay peacefully and quietly, meditating, without worrying about anything. To do so, there are various kinds of methods and techniques that will help to bring the mind into these conditions that will make it possible to reach knowledge and understanding through the experience of pure consciousness in a different way.
There are many other ways and means to change consciousness, either deliberately or unintentionally, accidentally. One of the most common ones is alcohol and other substances, but it can also be changed by sounds, rhythm, colours, shapes, light, smells, words, touch, feelings, and more. But also in hypnosis, by some unexpected event, a tragic accident, a desperate fall in love, someone’s death, deep despair.
They can also be used and they can be useful if being aware of them. As simple, unintelligible way, without an indispensable awareness, there arise no special benefits. Altering the states of consciousness and using the capabilities that emerge is a special art that can be learned and developed.
Must be mindful in this regard. There’s no need to get oneself out of nowhere, to transfer to different kinds of conditions. There could be control, could feel and know everything what’s happening. Letting go, losing control, forgetting, giving up is always possible and sometimes even right and necessary, it may happen, but it doesn’t.
If you can’t control yourself, to be aware of everything you do — every move, step, breath — then what can you do at all? If you don’t have clarity, how can you understand anything? If you don’t know what do you want, how can you want something? If you’re anxious, worried, stressed, if you’re rushing, struggling, seeking, if you need anything, if you are in any kind of desire, wish, believe, insist, hoping something, then what can you see?

What is Enlightenment?

There is a common description. — If you are sitting all the time in a dark room, you don’t know anything about light or “enlightenment”. You have never seen it. Nobody never told you about it. The darkness is a normalcy for you. You can live in darkness, you can act in darkness, you are familiar with darkness, no problem. Of course, you have to learn first, how to live and act in that darkness, how to find necessary things, how to use them, etc. But as your knowledge and abilities develop, you can it manage quite well.
Even if somebody should tell you that you are living in total darkness, or should declare that actually there is a light and an enlightenment, too, you probably don’t care. You may think that you don’t need anything more, you may think that you are settled your life well and living quite comfortably and everything is going smoothly anyway.
Maybe, only if you are confronted with some kind of suffering, uncomfortableness, inconvenience, pain, sickness, sadness, bad luck, etc., you may start to re-think or maybe even to search for some way out of the current situation, looking for some kind of “enlightenment”.
And then, you may notice something, for a very brief moment, somewhere, somehow. You may hear something extraordinary and start to understand something new and differently. Maybe somebody told you something and you may discover in that saying something much deeper.
In any case, these are like a glimpses of something. But from this very moment you are sure that there is a light or at least something different, anyway, anyhow. You are now convinced, that you are able to open your eyes, to see that light, to reach to that. You may even feel, that you are now already enlightened, and you may also feel yourself somehow better or higher than others. This may be the first mistake.
It’s not the full “enlightenment” yet, of course. From now you can only start to discover the full “enlightenment”, you are now really able to move towards this light. That may be a hard and long way, hard and long-lasting work. But you know the right direction at last and that’s the point.
Here you can make another mistakes. The light you’ve seen may be so attractive for you that you start to investigate the light instead of yourself. There is nothing to investigate concerning on the light. The light is the same all the time. The light is not changing. Only you are changing. Your abilities to see and to recognise the light may change. You may see and understand the “enlightenment” better or worse. The key is inside you, not in the properties of light.
People frequently stumbling upon such things, starting to research and investigate various light properties in various textbooks, in various teachings, with different teachers and techniques, etc. It’s useless. The light is the same with any teacher. Only the way towards “enlightenment” may differ. Purely technical issues. How to breathe in and out, how to sit and what to eat. These are just formal characteristics of the way.
Even “enlightenment” itself is just a word, void of all meanings. We can call it enlightenment or awakening. We can call it the Truth of Buddha or Dharma. These all mean nothing and they all mean the same.
This, described above, as a common description of so-called “enlightenment”, is surely true. But this is only a part of the truth.
Actually, there is nothing to discover, there is not any lightness or enlightenment at all. In fact, there is only darkness. And the darkness where you are sitting, is created by yourself. You, by yourself built this dark room around yourself. You are covered by yourself, you are sitting in yourself. You, by yourself cannot see anything but yourself. This dark room is actually yourself and nothing more.
Lightness is just as natural normality as darkness, but the darkness is something artificial, created and built up by environment, by society, by human relations, by educational development, etc. This is what the society expects from us. This is what in the society is called personality, a unique person, yourself, your incomparable and special values, your credibility, all your abilities, etc. You are covered by that all. From your very childhood you can see only these things and nothing anymore. And you are proud of these things around you, because you feel yourself as a valuable and inevitable part of society.
You don’t care about some abstract light or spiritual enlightenment. You are happy and satisfied with yourself, in yourself. Yet the light is still discoverable. The way and key out of darkness is here. It needs only to dis-cover, to remove the cover, yourself, at all. You don’t need it anymore.
Come out. Look around. Let the sunshine in. And then, in the broad daylight, you can see, that actually the darkness didn’t exist. The cover around you, yourself, was just a myth, just a story you were told by yourself and others. It was not real thing. It was just an imaginary, yet useful tool, in the society.
After dis-covering this cover, called “self”, you are actually still able to act in the society like before. Nobody can even notice any change.

The peculiarity of Humans

Why are we so different compared to other living beings, yet breathe, eat and replicate the way they do, being a part of nature, the animal kingdom, the mammals? We have a similar heart, liver, spleen, lungs, blood vessels, limbs, bones and muscles like many other animals, yet we are considerably different from them.
We have trains and ships, cars and planes, hotels and malls, restaurants and beauty salons, temples and cathedrals, poetry and novels, operas and tragedies, libraries and internet, communications satellites, and more things that animals don’t have. Why is that, and how did it became so?
At least one thing is sure — human culture can emerge, exist and evolve only in a human environment, in a society. Culture, customs, language and literacy will not come by birth, they are not inherited, they must be acquired, they have to be learned. If a newborn human child cannot be among humans at the right time, he/she will never become an actual person and may not even start walking like a human, not to mention talking and thinking. The stories of Mowgli and Tarzan are just fantasies.
Here comes a somewhat paradoxical topic, neoteny, which is the delaying or slowing of the physiological or somatic development of an animal. This is a rarely occurring phenomenon in which the development of the specimen stops at some early stage, but the maturity is nevertheless achieved. Some insects, for instance, remain in the larval form, but yet multiply. Some amphibians do so also. But among mammals, humans are the only species with such a phenomenon.
Our genome is almost identical with chimpanzees, but our appearance differs totally. Our skin has as many hair follicles as the monkeys, but they don’t develop. We remain pale and bare.
In a simple way, neoteny means, in our case, that a newborn infant looks like a large premature monkey embryo — bare, whitish, helpless, and will remain like this, only very slowly advancing and growing. The brakes are on. After a tenth of a year, it could at last be maturing and there will be needed still more than ten years to develop social skills. Without proper care, teaching, assisting and raising such a creature, a real person will not develop.
Self-reliance, which is a natural and necessary attribute for all living animals, in order to find food, to avoid threats, to multiply, is genetic instinct. But in the course of the long-term development of a human child, it expands dramatically; this natural self-realisation will amplified, enlarged, prioritised. The child is admired and praised immediately, from its beginning, whenever a slightest development has been achieved; if he/she can say its first words, tie their own shoe laces, and so on.
And the same too with “me,” and “myself!” — a feeling that spans the natural self-reliance of a little person. — “It’s me! It’s mine! – My father! My mom! My home!”
Involuntarily and inevitably, it develops selfishness, prioritisation and appreciation of self, taking most things personally; egoism, arrogance and superiority, together with various perceptions and opinions, beliefs and attitudes, desires and deliberations, all of which together are called personality.
It wants and demands, it has wishes and needs, it is insulted and angered, desires and despises, manipulating and doubting. The person is nervous and uneasy, it wants to get revenge, it can be mean, jealous and stingy. The person needs reassurance, somewhere to belong, recognition and respect. It needs something to achieve, something to say, something to flourish. It fears and regrets, rejoices and enjoys, decides and makes, assesses and compares and puts everything in its place. The personality is important, it’s special, it’s unique.
Of course, this is not to say as if such selfishness or personality is at all wrong, useless, unnecessary and overarching. On the contrary, this is exactly what has given us all these achievements, all these ships and planes, poems and novels. Without bringing their personality into the game, all the inventions and discoveries in the history of humanity would be left undone, and we would still just sit in a cave.
Just thanks to this pivotal development, when this self-feeling is so large, this self-differentiation so important, it began to manifest itself in many ways: fire, manufacture of tools, eventually to educate, build towns, create empires, but alas, to wage wars, to sow ruin.
Obviously, our peculiarity — the stalled somatic development, or neoteny — has lasted for a too short time compared to natural history, so that we couldn’t yet have started to use the resulting opportunities more purposefully. Sometimes it seems as if we need more deepening and peace of mind, then again it seems that there is a need to intensify our progress and achievements. In this book, we have more emphasised the necessity of deepening and the peace of mind, and the illusion of personality — this is precisely a counterweight to excessive materialism and the cult of achievement.
But if this selfishness, the overwhelming of egotism in a person inevitably arises and emerges, then the only question remains how to understand it, and whether and how to use it. The inconvenience and suffering will be accompanied by this in any case, and the final satisfaction will never arrive, but still. To implement this selfishness, toiling and suffering, for achievement, self-fulfilment, fame and success, to conquer and win, — or, how to reduce and mitigate the effect of that, perhaps to get rid of it? It seems, that both may be conceivable, one shouldn’t exclude the other if you’re moderate and balanced.
Usually, animals go through this stage of life expediently and smoothly, without any particular personality or the importance of self-perception emerging from their natural self-reliance. In case of domesticated animals, like the dogs for instance, may be something similar to personality in us, can be noticed, but this might also be our own imagination or projection.
But in our case — for our long period of childhood and youth during which one must constantly be confronted with various, often contradictory prohibitions and demands, punishments and recognitions, being with incessant care and attention — this immature human being inevitably emerges as a self-illusion of the most important and distinguished character in the world.
If so confused being ever came to realise that it wasn’t really like how it was taught, then there may arise uncomfortable feelings of torture and having deceived. This human being may spend the rest of its life trying to solve these misunderstandings, to cope with such sufferings and to get rid of these mistakes.
In most cases, a final resolution will never happen.

There is a method to get rid of this

Can be released, can see and feel everything plainly without taking anything in person, taking everything calmly, equally, always, everywhere, in every situation. It is not apathy or indifference, letting go or carelessness, it is a surrender from a reaction based on prejudices, in any way, and it can be practiced every day, at any moment, in every situation. To do everything you think about it, deliberately, fully conscious.

Lao-zi: Who knows others, is smart. Who knows oneself, is great.

Some news, someone’s saying, some new idea is like the winds that could lead you out of the right intentions, but they don’t have to put up the target yet. As the butterfly may be distracted by the breeze, he is not going to give up the intent to get to the right. You don’t have to give up on anything.
And then you will no longer suffer for your cravings and willingness, your contempt or fears, you not depend on them, you’re not their slaves, there are no more preferences, and hence freedom, release, clarity, lighting.
It’s all one, no matter.

It’s all good, but how to achieve it?

That is the right question and there is also an answer.
Let’s remember a little bit and recall. We had problems, concerns, disagreements, troubles and suffering, and it turned out that there was a reason for all this. We had made our own life and being like this, with our own ignorance and stupidity. We had taken in person, we had kept it all for ourselves. Fortunately, there is a reason to get rid of this cause and there is a method.
Everything must be done right, carefully, thoroughly, fully, perfectly, in the best way. Not that so far everything has been done wrong or badly, certainly not. But everything can be done much better and more accurately, being attentive, consistent and careful, and thereby getting rid of all inconveniences and suffering.
What’s important is how

to view,
to intend,
to speak,
to operate,
to set up life,
to try,
to understand,
to proceed.

These are eight important things and we are now looking at them a bit more thoroughly.

How to view

It’s one of the first things that can be done more accurately — to view better, then it looks better.
To look at everything as if you saw this first and maybe the last time, completely innocent, without being prepared, without anything accounted for, anything appreciated. Seeing everything the way it is, at the very moment, in just the same place, without going to get you in any way or to touch you, without being disturbed or irritated or dissented or reluctant.
Most of the things that are happening in the world have nothing to do with you. Then why should you bind yourself with them? All you see is not meant for you, not done or intended for you, it doesn’t all have to confuse you, rejoice or make complain. Let it all be, just look and see, and don’t interfere with your thoughts, opinions or assessments, with your willingness and desires, with your principles and beliefs.
Better to sharpen and develop mind, consciousness and wisdom through what is just to be seen and viewed. To take care rather that the mind would not travel as pointlessly, would not spread out, not let itself be irritated or disturbed by any extraneous circumstances; that it could see, feel and understand, quite frankly.
There’s nothing you need to think about, imagine to yourself, or dream of something. There is no need to attach any meaning to anything or to seek such meanings. There is no need to investigate whether something is for someone somehow valuable, useful or damaging, right or wrong. You give these assessments, you’re all that, you see all this through yourself and therefore you may not be able to see much.
It just interferes the right view, the right sight, and you don’t need it. You’re what you look and see, hear or read. You are the view and sight, hearing and reading, understanding, comprehending and influence. You’re stuck with it, you’re one with it.
Can be viewed and view by letting clear vision. You can listen and hear, let the silence come, listening. You start to see and hear and start to understand what’s going on. You really understand that you’re the understanding, the hearing, the sight and that there’s nothing more. You’re gonna see and understand the whole. It doesn’t matter, it’s all one.
All misunderstandings, disagreements and suffering are just minor things, smaller particles of a much larger picture, more general understanding. If you no longer isolate or oppose yourself, if you no longer look at the little things, when you see the whole, you are already there in all of this, integrity, in the world where there are no contradictions, disagreements or suffering, desires or wishes or needs.
The basic, complete and natural is always there, always remains, will not disappear anywhere, nor change in any way. That’s what is important, what counts, what’s going on. Isolating yourself, differentiating from it only misses, violates, distorts, doesn’t let you see a whole, doesn’t let you see the right thing.
There is no need to fight what is happening naturally, of course, and inevitably, like ageing or death. You’re getting old and you die anyway. Why should you suffer for that, fight it? As if being young is somehow better or more true, as if death is somehow worse than life. These are just delusions.
They can’t be avoided, there’s nothing unfair or false, you don’t need to offend or worry, you don’t have to get upset, you don’t have to take them personally, you don’t have to suffer for them.
But you can see and view more accurately and deeper. The wind blows and the sea waves, the air moves faster than water and there is friction on their contact surface that creates foam and waves. We don’t see the wind or the sea, we can see just waves on the surface.
And the same way we see and perceive oscillations and waves, vibration and changes everywhere. Everything is changing, vibrating and oscillating, but all that in which these waves, oscillations, vibrations and changes occur, we may not see or know anything about it. We do not perceive the field, but we note the changes, differences, alternations that occur in it. These movements are real for us, they are actual, because these are what we see and feel.
We see and perceive the manifestations, phenomena, events occurring on the surface of consciousness, coming through the gates of consciousness. They are like wind breezes. They influence inevitably and of course our already existing perceptions, experiences, opinions and thus create a variety of thoughts, wishes and willingness. They’re like waves, it’s like foam on water. We live in these waves, in these surface-to-air ventures, in that foam; we react to it, engage with it, and it can seem to be the only reality.
The waves, however, are only temporary phenomena, they come and go, emerge and disappear on the impact of accidental wind momentum and are not particularly important. No need to take them seriously, to deal with them, to respond to them. There is no need to do anything about any obvious fact, to start struggling, to think about it, to judge, to fight, to annoy. It all flows, breeds and sinks, comes and goes.
Of course, you can play with things like that, like toys, can argue and quarrel, as usual. In some age we will loose interest in toys and in playing with them, we will understand its superficiality and uselessness. Similarly, you can understand, see and realise how vain and childish it is to argue with someone about a little wave or go into a fight for that.
There can be more deeper, can see and feel, be and understand substantially more and fully, and thus understand more accurately. Deeper reality is much more persistent and much more important.

Lao-zi: The depth opens to abyss.

All this can be said and understood in many ways. It can be said that the ultimate truth has no signs nor characteristics. Can talk about absolute, unified field, or anything else. It may be noted that energy does not appear or disappear but changes its status, or that everything is energy.
A. Einstein said it particularly beautifully: E = mc2.
Everything is changing, nothing is permanent. Everything that comes, it goes; everything that arises, it disappears. Time gives everything and takes it all. It’s all one.
From some point, such talks may seem too lame, rather as stupidity.

Lao-zi: The right word seems wrong.

Yes, you can view the right way and thereby see it right. Such views can be exercised and learned and could be used continuously, all the time.
To that end, attention, care and continuity are needed.

How to intend

If you already started to look better and see through the temporary ripples, quite real depths, a more persistent nature, then you can start to plan.
Every intention is always preceded by an idea, and every thought has a reason to emerge, whether it is some kind of sensation or perception, the sight of something or the hearing, the smell or the idea that forms the intent to make this particular action.
It can all take place in a moment, totally unknowingly and unintentionally. You see a favourite chocolate on the shelf, and it’s already in your basket, without knowing about your perceptions, thoughts or intentions.
Such involuntary and unintended impulses can be better realised at the same store as there is no hurry. You walk easy between the shelves and when a glance stops at one or another interesting item, you watch instead your own thoughts and feelings. You may stop and let these feelings and thoughts become clearer, let them go to their bottom, understand their deepest causes and sources. And then walk on quietly.
These kinds of exercises can be repeated in many different situations, until the mind starts to watch itself much more closely and no longer just let be tempted, not only with foods or goods, but at all, with everything. You can always ask what you really need it for, whether it’s money, career, recognition, attention or whatever. It also turns out how little something really needs to be done at all, how little it is that you might want to worry about, to think about. And that’s what they learn to do better.
In fact, all intentions, intentions, and wishes could not be noticed at all, if you already have the right view and seeing. For the most part, the desire is quite self-assertive, relatively overarching and unneeded, and not taking you anywhere, rather making to want something more, and that’s the way it remains endlessly circulated.

Lao-zi: If you know it’s enough, that’s enough.

A somewhat different is the story with your good intentions. You may have very good thoughts and plans, but in the end it still turns out that someone was hurt, someone had to suffer because of you, you were bad and evil. (According to an old saying, the path to the hell is paved with good intentions…) Indeed, it is not enough if you try to simply refrain from hatred and evil, avoid causing pain and suffering. Deeper and more thorough sentiment is needed, and it can also be developed.
It is possible to reach deep, true and borderless benevolence, desiring and sharing the full happiness, joy and love, and all the good things that can be offered and given, like the sun, which shines on everyone, without making a difference.
You can start with yourself. Just, kindly and clearly, you look at yourself and wish yourself all good. So you say in your thoughts:

“May I always and everywhere be joyful and happy. May I always be safe and kept. May I always be in good shape. May I always doing fine. May I still find the right ways and the solutions. Let the good chances and opportunities come. Let me be happy with everything that happens.”

That, of course, may be converted and repeated in many ways. What is important is that these wishes could come from hearts, sincerely and purely, like sunlight and warmth.
Then you may think of an important person, a good friend or companion, a close person, and tell in your thoughts, in the same hearts, sincerely and purely:

“Be always and everywhere joyful and happy. Be sure and always safe and kept. Stay in good shape. Do always fine. Find the right way and the solutions. Have everything you’re gonna do. Let good chance and opportunities coming to you. Be happy with everything that happens.”

Then you can focus on someone who you may not even know, and who doesn’t care much for you. In spite of that, you think of that person and tell in your thoughts, with the same heart, sincerely and purely:

“Be always and everywhere joyful and happy. Be sure and always safe and kept. Stay in good shape. Do always fine. Find the right way and the solutions. Have everything you’re gonna do. Let good chance and opportunities coming to you. Be happy with everything that happens.”

The next step is particularly important, to think of someone who has done you something bad, because of whom you have been hurt, who has cheated on you, humiliated and insulted, caused evil and harm. And you also think of him, in the same heart, sincerely and purely, like the sun:

“Be always and everywhere joyful and happy. Be sure and always safe and kept. Stay in good shape. Do always fine. Find the right way and the solutions. Have everything you’re gonna do. Let good chance and opportunities coming to you. Be happy with everything that happens.”

And finally you think of all the close friends and acquaintances; everyone you know or not even know, who is in your vicinity and neighbourhood; for all who live in the same house, on the same street, in the same city. Think about all the people, all the nations across the world. Think about all the living creatures, all the dogs and cats, roosters and chickens, frogs and snakes, without making any difference, without excluding anyone. Think about all trees and bushes, flowers and straws, mushrooms and lichens, forests and seas, rivers and lakes. On all the creatures, whether they are visible or invisible, known or unknown, and say in your thoughts to all of them, heartedly, sincerely and purely, like the sun would allow them to feel the warmth and light:

“Be they always and everywhere joyful and happy. Be they always safe and kept. Let them be fine and in good shape. Let always get them all right. Let them find the right way and the solutions. Well, let them all know what they’re doing. Let them have good chance and opportunities. Let them be satisfied with everything that happens.”

Such exercises can be repeated daily, quite frankly, with deep inner conviction and certainty. That will help, it’s important to intend properly.

How to speak

That’s the third thing to pay attention to — how to speak more rightfully. It goes about the words and thoughts that are being issued, but also about the writings that others may read, whether on paper or on the wall, in a post or a comment in Internet.
Today, written words and messages may spread much faster and much more widely than ever before. It is especially important to observe what you write about, what written traces you have left for others to read. These traces may never disappear.
No need to lie, no need to talk badly or evil, no need to talk nonsense.
Also there is no need to tell everyone or write about where you went, what you did, what you saw or heard, thought or imagined; there is no need to take pictures of yourself and to share and spread them. It was just you who went somewhere, did something, thought, imagined, why would it interest anyone?
Well, if someone really asks and seems interested, there’s still a chance to talk, but anyway, it’s all over, there is not very much to talk about. There’s no need to talk about what could have been or could happened, because it didn’t been or happened, so it doesn’t matter.
Neither do you need to talk about the things that you’re worried about, what you’re afraid of, what you’re waiting for or what you want to happen or not happen, because it’s not yet, and it doesn’t matter at all.
These are just your hopes and expectations; anyway, everything goes differently from what you expect or hope or fear. When it comes, it comes, when it happens, then we’ll can see it, but there’s no need to talk about it now, to make yourself and others nervous, it doesn’t help anyone or anything. These all are nonsense stories.
There’s also no need to talk about what you thought about something or someone before and what you think about it now. That doesn’t mean anything either, it doesn’t change anything. We do think and think something, and then we think and think differently again. Your earlier opinions or thoughts should not go for anyone, to be interested. It’s also hot air.
There’s no need to make anyone look surprised at anything, to amaze something, to wonder about something, there’s no need to tell anyone anything that he doesn’t know yet. Not all people need to know all things. There’s no need to affect anyone with your idle talk. Actually, you were trying to make yourself impressed, but why would you need it? It was bosh again.
The less you say, the more you hear.

Lao-zi: The words are in silence.

No need to lie. Human society is actually persist on trustfulness. People believe and trust what they are told and act accordingly. However, if the society begins to spread lies and cheats, when all the time you are warned, intimidated, when people sowing suspicions, insecurity will be created, put in fear, despised, hatred, it all damages people’s relations and ties, sows distrust, poisons consciousness. People don’t know how to function properly in such an environment anymore. Spread uncertainty and fear, and community suffers.
Lying will affect everyone. If you can’t tell the truth, you better don’t say anything. Every time you lie, it stays with you, stays on you, you can’t get rid of it anymore. You have to live with it, consider it, you have to remember what you had told someone and what was not true. If your lie should come out, others can’t trust you anymore.
The worst is the slandering and the spreading of defamatory stories as well as you believe these rumours, but especially of course if you know very well that this is not true. The damage that comes with the slandering is no longer possible to make amends and it has a devastating effect on all parties, especially for the slanderer itself. An honest person should not disrupt oneself at all, nor try to correct them, as this would disseminate these stories and no one would need it.
You don’t need to lie to yourself, you don’t need to admire yourself, to think of yourself at all, it’s all wrong anyway. There’s no need to believe anything you hear, see or read, and you don’t need to start spreading it right away.
It’s especially crazy when you’re really talking about someone or something badly. It doesn’t matter what or whom, it doesn’t matter at all, for what reason. It’s crazy if you think someone or something bad, and that makes you feel better about someone or something. But what’s worse is that if you tell others about it, even hints, by passing, somehow ridiculous, ironising, sarcastic. It affects you right now and directly and you can no longer take it back.
With every word you say or even think, you give something out of yourself. Even if you say something anonymously, so no one may find out who said that, so no one will ever start associating you with it — even then, you will still be linked to it.
It is you who speak, you were the one who said that, the expression, wrote, thought, it was your act, your decision and it affects you, directly affects you, not anyone else. Others may be affected by this, that’s their choice. You have no choice anymore, you’ve already told that, and you can’t take it back in any way. It’s going to be with you now, it’s gonna affect you, and you know it.
But if you loose control, if you go evil, angry, raise your voice, get upset, if you don’t manage yourself, you don’t understand what’s going on, then the things are gone really insane. Behind any offensive, anger, misunderstanding, there is always a conflict between your imagination and reality. As said Prometheus: “Jupiter, you got angry — you’re not right!”
Hold on, stop, give up, bend, give way, be thankful, kind and friendly, be helpful, do the right thing. That is important.
It doesn’t matter what anybody thinks of you and there’s no matter what you think about anything or anyone. Every time you want, wait or hope something, always ask, what you need it for. It will release. Every time you want to say something, think why you have to say that? If you have anything to say, you’d better shut up first. It’s just you who wants to say that, but what do you need it for?
You don’t need to tell anyone about what you’ve just heard or found out. It may not be true at all, nor do you have the right message. Things can go especially insane when you add something to it, exaggerate, increase or ridiculous. You don’t need it at all.
You don’t need to say anything to anyone, to prove anything, to explain, to make it clear. Any desire, hope or wish is not necessary at all. Needless to say, there is no need to ask or demand anything, all is there anyway and available. Just look, see, be there and you’ll get it. It will release.
All you want, believe or hope, is in you. You don’t have to spread it, you don’t have to talk about it, it’s all there anyway. Don’t be anybody. No one can hurt you in any way, but you don’t have to affect anyone in any way.
There are little things to get nervous about, worry or suffer. People are like that. Is your worrying or suffering can help them somehow or make better? How just you are better and smarter?
In everything that’s ordinary, there’s nothing special. In everything that’s special, there’s nothing ordinary.
There are no empty words in the right speak, no evil or a lie. The right speak is not to achieve anything. It can be watched, could be careful in that regard.

How to operate

The next important step that could be noticed — how to act more accurately and better.
There is no need to harm anyone, to make suffer or to kill. There is no need to take anything away from anyone, everything can be done so that no one will be sorry, no one will suffer and no one will miss anything.
Why do you want to kill the mosquito who is getting close to you? She only wants to eat, she is hungry. There’s a lot of ways to keep them away if they bother you. Why would he die, it’s his life and let him live. There’s a lot of things like that. There is no need to overreact, there is no need to create excessive suffering, cause unnecessary problems, make someone worry. Even talking about your own concerns and problems may prove to be a burden for the other.
We are talking about the intentional actions we have planned ourselves and which we ourselves are aware of. In the world, inevitably, harm and suffering are created and inevitably all living creatures will die. We may not always know what and to whom we may have something done, something caused, but we know very well what we do directly and intentionally. Just for such actions, it could be noticed that there would be no unnecessary suffering and perils.
It is not necessary to take what has not been given to you, nor is it necessary to take what is not to anyone and not to what is someone else’s. Even if someone doesn’t need it, maybe doesn’t consider to own it, won’t remember, won’t use it, or if you think you can use it any better. It’s not needed.
The same goes for people-to-people relations. You may like someone, and you might want to communicate more closely with, but if there’s no consent, there’s no need to start trying. There’s no need to start investigating the reasons or the consequences. People are different, and everyone has their own wishes and needs, their own life and their own backgrounds. You don’t have to take such cases personally. With the right action, the wishes of other people will be respected and will not be forced upon them after your own.
Here comes the right viewing and the right intentions, because it’s not always as simple and unequivocal if you’ve not just decided to live hermit monk’s life. In normal layman’s life, there may always occur a situation where your absolutely right action can make someone suffer instead, without you knowing about it.
For example, someone can give you something, offer you, but you may not know if it even belongs to him, whether he has right to offer you that. He can believe it himself, but maybe someone else thinks otherwise, and if you accept it, you can cause harm and suffering.
The use of money can also create confusion and damage. You may have the money that has been given to you, which you have earned frankly, but yet the money can’t be used totally freely and eyes closed, for that to buy whatever and from whoever, as damage and suffering may also be created out of it.
Obviously, in various spiritual communities, there are trying to refrain from using money and avoid closer relations between people, as they may interfere with the right action and disrupt a sincere commitment and devotion.
Often, all kinds of property, family and descendants are dismissed, saying no to selfishness, own benefits, willingness and desires. If you don’t want anything, you won’t miss anything. If you don’t own anything, you can’t lose anything, then you’re free and you can devote oneself to whatever.

Lao-zi: Wise wearing plain fabric, gold in heart.

But yet, even in ordinary, everyday, laymen’s life, all of this can be applied, do the right things and be right if already being viewed and seen properly, planned and spoken correctly. Watching and seeing already makes sure that you do the right thing. And if the intentions are right and clear, there is no need to worry about any confusion or misunderstanding.

How to set up life

The next important thing is how to set up your life so that it would be actually right.
We all are living with our lives and often we think it’s only our life that shouldn’t bother anyone else, that there is no need to pay attention to what others think, or think about how they are. And that’s really right.
But it would also be right to notice how we can do our own life and business and being with others. We don’t live alone in this world, there are other people and other creatures, other relations, too. We affect them, we communicate with them even if we don’t even know about it by ourselves, if we don’t know, neither understand nor think anything of them.
It is nice to imagine oneself the centre of the universe, and consider the rest of the world only as our own imagination, of which there is no particular need to care much. Nevertheless, this world is affecting us, we are influenced by this world, and there is nothing much we can do about it.
And similarly, we will impact this world ourselves and influence it. Every move, a word, a glance, a smile or a grin changes something in the world you’re in. You will be noticed, you will be counted even if you will not notice or count on it.
If you’re already living, if you’re already here, you’re also responsible for you being here, then you’ll inevitably have to accept all the consequences for how you live and how you are. You’ve created this world by yourself and for yourself.
It’s all one, no matter. We are starting to create and influence this world right from the birth. Our first voices make other people pay attention to us and act, take care of us, right from the start. There’s nothing we can do about it.
Even if you just exist, you already have consequences. You can do very much only with your own existence alone and you are therefore truly dangerous, horrible, frightening, even standing still, even if you don’t do anything, think nothing, and nothing is going to happen.
It’s going similarly with everyone, with all living creatures. The earthworm also affects the world in which he lives, the pine will rock his powerful head there and make us sing about it, and the same is with everything that exists. Maybe the mountain doesn’t know that only because of its existence, the waters are flowing down its side; maybe the water doesn’t even know what it’s causing on this hill alone because of its flow. Hardly so that the sun, the clouds or the wind could understand or perceive how important they might be to someone.
But we could understand, consider and be aware of that, because we have this option. We can arrange our lives and our way of living right, to set op our lives the right way. Can be tried, to be and to live in such a way that the less evil is born.
There is nothing very complicated in this, if we have already started to view, to see and intend, to speak and act in right way. Just look and notice everything that is not needed, which is not suitable for the right livelihood, which may harm someone, cause unnecessary suffering. Can be look forward, to see further and more. We can understand and notice where the consequences of our life and livelihood can lead to, what can happen.
We know where everything what lets us live comes from, because we do it with our work, with our own action. Can be seen further. We can also understand what we don’t see directly, but what we are contributing too.
If we have realised that there is no lie in the right speak, that we should not contribute to lying and cheating, then there’s no need to work and make a living where people are deceived and lie to others. There is no need to contribute that, no matter how little or whatever indirectly. It will inevitably bind and not let it be freely.
If we have understood the right intentions in the deepest sense, we will clearly see if there is no right intentions, if causing pain and suffering actually is the main goal, where earning on failures and delusions is the business. And again, there is no need to contribute to that.
There are very many things that are meant to cause pain and suffering to other creatures: arms, slaughter, traps, miscellaneous poison, etc. There is no need to either directly or indirectly connect to them, no need to contribute killing, injuring or torturing anyone. It doesn’t matter whether it’s going to happen to a person or some other living being, everybody’s one anyway.
Please pay attention, that we are not talking here as if all such activities are somehow bad or evil, or about any kind of sinners, or condemning it all, oh no, far from.
We are talking here about how to be, how to get rid of inconveniences and suffering. It is absolutely possible to be attentive and careful not to cause anything like that to others.
You can’t be free and happy if others suffer because of you.

How to try

Of all the important things we have talked about already, however, there is not much use if there is no energy or power to launch and sustain them.
It is not enough to know how to properly view, plan, speak, act and set up life, but actually not viewing, not intending, not speaking nor acting nor setting up lives anyway. We may have very good tools, instruments and apparatus, but if we don’t switch them on, if we don’t get them started, not use them, there’s nothing to do with them.
All these important things have to be put to work, trying properly, sincerely and committed. For that purpose, solid will, desire and effort are needed.
It is the same desire and willingness that could also feed our selfish goals and ambitions, spurred us with achievements, made us hunt for recognition. We gave up those desires and willingness when we understood their void and assumption. But now we will have the same energy, the same force to be applied much more valuable, more suited and more productive, much more accurately, because we already have the right view, the right intentions and other important things. No need to let this energy go to waste.
It can be consolidated and directed consistently into the momentum, attention, focus. It can be used to remove the mood of fatigue and laziness, which may prove to be a very major obstacle. It’s not an easy job, but it’s not impossible at all.
To do that, you have to keep yourself alert all the time, all the time to ask yourself, all the time, every day, repeatedly to check and ask if I’m still viewing right, if my intentions are right, whether iIm talking and doing the right thing, whether I have properly arranged the way of life. This work cannot be done by anyone else for us; the results of this work cannot be understood, felt or appreciated by others. It just needs to be dealt with, on a daily basis, in order to get anywhere.
The most energy is to remove those obstructions that have already been talked about. These were being greedy, contemptuous, uneasy, lazy and suspicious. They are not coming from anywhere outside, but of us; they are in us all the time, hidden, in the sleeping state and still. In suitable conditions, they may awaken very sly, first distracting our attention, blurring clear awareness, then to emerge and to become more powerful.
All depends on what stage of our spiritual development we will notice these obstructions, when we catch them. The first sign of danger is distracting attention, blurry focusing, drifting thoughts. It may be noticed at a very early stage, even before it really has happened — as soon as the focus is on the smallest disorder, the tiniest deviation. In this case, just and easily turn back into focus. With long-term experience and practicing, such actions will become almost automatic.
Somewhat more troublesome, the thoughts have already gone wandering, distracted, awareness lost. In that case, the focus must be reversed in the same way without being blamed or investigated in any way.
The most complicated would be the situation when some obstruction has already taken the power and we have already sunk away from somewhere. We note that we are already dealing with some of our desire or willingness, considering something bad, circulating with some our concerns or problems, we are tired or sleepy, we have started to suspect or mistrust. There is no need to deceive or justify oneself, as if this sinking is somehow valuable or necessary, as if it was analysed in such a way, as to achieve some of the essential and important conclusions and decisions.
It’s deceptive. It only shows that we were weak, we couldn’t try and focus enough and that the obstruction had more energy and capabilities than we had.

“Dad, is it possible to do several things at once?”
“Yes, of course. For example, right now I’m talking to you, watching tv, reading the paper, listening to what mama’s talking about, and I still snooze at the same time.”

Doing several things at once is not a superpower to try or want. This is what we are doing all the time, still and inevitably, often still confused, so nothing can be done properly. Much more rare, more valuable and more wonderful is the focus only on one thing, one activity, one event.
One thing at a time, one activity at a time, focusing entirely, all over, so there would come nothing from the side, anything confusing, distracting, no other thoughts or feelings, fears or suspicions.
This can be attempted, it can be practiced, focusing on something completely insignificant, to something ordinary, which does not relate at all to your feelings, thoughts or memories, focusing on the focus just for focusing. For example, if you can only take long time enough to observe just air movement in your nostrils, or movements of your feet while walking, then you are already able to do much more.
With full attention, there is nothing to do nor to try anywhere. Suffice to observe and notice what is just happening without willing, desire or hope. Like a cinema. You’re not involved, you don’t have to react, jump on the stage and get involved in it; you’re just watching, without catching anywhere, without discouraging anything.

How to understand

We can understand, see, and realise how little there is at all what is actually necessary and essential. Nobody sees, doesn’t know or understands everything and it doesn’t needed. It’s enough to understand and realise important things, actual things.
But it’s also true that mostly we don’t have time for these important things, for the facts. In everyday life we are forced to deal with various kinds of everyday things, and if at the end there appears a free moment, we will rather rest with it, turn ourselves off and do not want to know anything about any reality or eternity. We’ve been pushing such thoughts and ideas far away, out of sight.
Of course, we know and we remember occasionally and blurtly that there was something more important than this day-to-day nonsense. That there is, somewhere, deep and quietly, in the depths of all our physical manifestations, personalities, opinions and assessments, works and activities, hopes and dreams, that there is something much more persistent and much more important than all these surface-to-air ventures. But we do, mostly, in order to not hear its deep and quiet humming, to muffle it. Because it disrupts and stirs. This itch can’t be scratched, the humming can’t be switched off.
From time to time, it emerges, kicks out and reminds us in one or another way that there is something more important than the life we live. Somehow we also suspect that something is very wrong in our life, but at the same time we will do everything in order not to think too much about it. In some other circumstances, it quietly arises on background, letting the eternal light shine over our temporary problems, as if waiting for our dedicated attention, but, without getting it, will go down again.
The understanding starts with the realisation that apart from what we see, hear, know, think, there is still something that can’t be seen or heard or in any way describe, what we don’t know about or think about, and for which we can’t even ask on any reasonable way.

Death, Being, God, Truth, Reality, Eternity, Clarity, Dharma, Dao, Unified Field, Unified Consciousness, Transcendence…

Lao-zi: The name doesn’t mean anything. Who doesn’t want to, can see. Who wants to, can feel. It’s one and the same. The difference is in naming.

It can be understood. It can be perceived. Can get to it. We’re born in it. We can recognise it in the bright eyes of a small child who is not yet aware of it, who is in an unconscious world, just being in own nature, which has not yet been overshadowed by excessive self-consciousness. The adult, however, is usually in its self-centred world, separating itself from being and does not want to know or feel much about it.
However, with a persistent understanding, it’s possible to relocate, open and restore it and thereby reach the initial sense of being, clarity.

Lao-zi: Freedom gives persistence. Persistence gives understanding. Understanding gives clarity. Without a permanent understanding, we will be condemned. Persistent understanding will open up.

And here comes the question which is waiting for a clear and definite answer: what is the most important to you, what is your true purpose, not somewhere in the future, but just here and now, at any moment? The answer does not come easily and is not obvious at all. You could think about it thoroughly and meditate.
It’s a very deep question for you. No one else can answer that or give an answer. This is perhaps the most important issue, because life is just aligned by what is the most appreciated and important for you. People appreciate and consider important things often. Often, they only think and say something is important, without deepening anything more thoroughly. There are very few of those who are actually interested in Reality or Being.
True, however, we are developing. Some important things remain important, while several other lose priority. It should be kept constantly in mind, to be aware of the current moment, existing level and capabilities.
However, if clarity is firmly in hand and the target is quite clear, then it must also be followed. This does not mean that there should be work to do and bother to achieve something in the future. It means a complete presence here and now; an honest and sincere desire to remove and send away all illusions, all perceptions that could overshadow our clarity and aim.
It needs to be taken with heart, it needs to be loved, it needs to be dealt with. And if this clarity is firmly united with the will and the unconditional love, it will become one of the world’s strongest forces that are over any situations and fate.
Now you need to be careful in this regard, not to give the achievement over to anyone else. It’s your life, you’re responsible for it, and no one can do it for you. If now, at this victorious point of itself, it will be abandoned and will be blindly followed by whoever led you to it — a spiritual leader or teacher — that could easily lead to extreme cults, fanaticism, obsessions, hatred, and even to violence. Unfortunately, this happens too often.
Of course, you need to respect and love your teacher, and to dedicate yourself to him, but you don’t need to adore him, you don’t need to be addicted to him. It’s still your life you live in, not anybody else’s. A reasonable balance must be found.
Same goes for spiritual teachings. The teachings are not the reality, but only the guides, the direction indicators. The teaching needs to be dealt with, it can be applied, but there is no need to just believe it and get it as the final truth. By the way, good teachings often work and influence unnoticed.
However, here has become significant the outstanding honesty of ourselves. It does not mean perfection, on the contrary, it means, among other things, the honest and sincere notification and acknowledgement of imperfections. The complete honesty towards oneself means acknowledging oneself just as it is, with all mistakes and shortcomings, without hiding or fearing anything.
It may seem painful, even cruel. Very painful and disgusting peculiarities may arise. It is quite unbelievable how little we know ourselves, how easily and blithely we are constantly cheating and justifying ourselves, how easily we give way the intriguing temptations, cause pain and suffering to both ourselves and others.
But an honest introspection to yourself is only an honest introspection. We see, we notice, we recognise ourselves, very deeply, very thoroughly, perhaps very painfully, but there is no need to appreciate it, neither praise nor condemn, to feel guilty or admire, and therefore to act somehow. Do not, for example, start to blame or justify your parents or friends or whatever.
The immense honesty of oneself wipes out all the imaginations and illusions that have been spoiled and decorated. The honesty itself also shows, among other things, what we are actually capable for, what serious obstacles may arise. You see yourself naked, completely defenceless, fearful, weak, helpless — as very real, as you are. And it frightens you when you understand what a villain, how disgusting, timid, mean and suspicious, how weak, insane, evil and bad you really are.
It’s your selfishness, your inner nature, your “me” that ever came up and then you learned to hide carefully, overcome, hide from both others and yourself.
These understandings don’t make you better and also don’t give any reason to humiliate or prosecute yourself. All people are like that, you’re not much more specific about that, neither worse nor better. You’re just starting to see, you’re just starting to understand what you don’t see or understand in the most part.
But once again: don’t give the estimates, just see, understand, take notice. Your true nature is the same fact as anything else.
It is possible to deal with a fair share of the fair, daily, day-to-day. Still will come into daylight yet new events, knowledge and experience, bringing something new up.
And which is more — only when you have achieved full respect for yourself, then you can be honest with others.

Lao-zi: Who knows others is smart. Who knows oneself is great. Who wins others is strong. Who wins oneself is mighty.

And then it’s worth watching yourself. Enlightenment doesn’t make anyone better or more perfect. It’s one of the common misconceptions. A right understanding, seeing clearly, is just about understanding and clear vision, nothing else. How does anyone use it, this is another matter.
The enlightenment just happens, it comes, it comes as a gift. It cannot be claimed or wanted, its coming cannot be foreseen. But if it comes, it’ll be right away.
There is no such thing as partial or gradual enlightenment. Well, maybe sometimes there’s something a little bit like that, the glance of enlightenment, the momentous flashes, or a little bit longer ones. These are really signs that something can start to happen. Sometimes things like that even startle. So what is that now? I’m not going crazy, am I? It might seem a bit like that.
But even when real enlightenment gets there, it may not stay. A day or two is, maybe a few more days, and then it can disappear again. A lot of what, everyday events, and other kinds of things, can get it off very easily. Therefore, it is recommended to deal with enlightenment as lonely and without confusion as possible.
But it’ll always come back as it’s already been. You know, and you know how to be like that, so it can come. It doesn’t come very unexpectedly anymore, like the first time. But yes, the event itself will be recognised from the first. If there remains a doubt, then it wasn’t the event.
It cannot be described much. And it’s not the sort of thing we want to announce. Anyway, it’s a great pleasure, sure. The pleasure, in particular, of how many concerns and problems fell off at the same time. Realising that the best things in life aren’t things.
Sometimes they say it’s more like letting something away, not just getting something. As if the shadow was taken off, the cover removed, something went off, clarity enters. Sometimes they say that, in fact, it is in everyone already, always, except that it is not usually seen, neither realised nor understood.
You understand how irrelevant and senseless were all your wishes, demands and needs, desires and despises. You know, actually, there’s no point in where you live, what you do. You’re losing interest in a lot of things that turned into excitement and interest before. No need for news, no need for recognition or attention. You’re with yourself, completely, really. You get into it, you get blown in it. You realise you’re with everything, with totality. What happens is what happens, what happens, the way it goes, actually, it’s all one.
And it’s a pleasure. A joy of unity, contentment with everything, while at the same time, perhaps in a full loneliness.

Lao-zi: No proximity, no stranger. No avail, no harm. No value, no worthlessness. It’s worth here in the world.

How to proceed

There’s not much left, almost all matters have already been said.
Of course, anyone can live and enjoy life, as wants, nobody forbids. Can enjoy wealth, power and glory, and everything that comes with it. Don’t worry, you don’t have to bother yourself with anything. There can be just and freely, without causing any further problems, unchanging anything yet. Everything can, nothing needs to be done.
And there’s nothing to be told or forbidden here. If there is anything to be shown here, perhaps only that in addition to the achievement of wealth, power and glory, there may be some more important things in this world, too. How anyone can see it or understand it is for everyone to do their own.
But if anyone should be interested in how to keep going, then it may also be counted. It doesn’t matter whether it’s enlightened or not. There must be in any case. And the most important thing is to be on as it has been; as far as it has been done so far. There is no need to repair or change what has helped, what works. Until you’ve not yet stopped, it doesn’t matter how slowly you move on. If you already use your mind exercises, meditation technique, yoga or whatever, it’s very reasonable to go on with these helpers.
Meditation must be first remembered, isn’t it, but it is not to be overestimated. This is not a universal remedy to treat all inconveniences, to solve all problems, certainly not. Nor is it the only and inevitable opportunity to achieve enlightenment.
But the value of this will not be underestimated either. The experience of this state of consciousness alone, in this presence, makes it possible to feel and understand much deeper, in a different way, better and more clearly than in ordinary state of consciousness. This is a very valuable time and could be used daily, at least twice, in the morning and in the evening.
It doesn’t even matter what technique to use. There are dozens of them, in fact, there are hundreds, but ultimately, with all of them, they can still get where they need to be. It would be good, of course, if someone teaches and instructs. Should there be a chance to choose, surely the mind development should be learned from a trustworthy teacher. Only if the teacher is really nowhere to be found, books or internet resources can also be used.
But for sure don’t start to invent or combining something, getting read or hearing something about it, or adapting to yourself, experimenting. These are still very powerful tools and their unskilled use may prove dangerous and may cause serious damage.
If there is anything to suggest at all, the most simple and accessible focus would be on something totally insignificant and common, for instance, your own breathing. Just organise circumstances so that nothing and no one can interfere or disturb you for a certain time. Then you just sit on the chair or on whatever you want. And watch closely how the air moves in you and out of you, through your nostrils, as if it should be the most important event in the world. You’re just watching that, just this, all the time, longterm. Not you are important, nor the air is important. It is important to keep this air movement steady and close, hold the long-term feeling, perception, feeling in such a way that all other thoughts and feelings are removed and disappear.
It is being, being in, being in immediate sense of being. It is a very deep experience that is not comparable to any kind of knowledge that can be read and learned from books or heard from others.
But meditation alone is not enough. There must also be deeper understanding and comprehending. Step back, view and explore yourself, ask the deepest questions about your thoughts, your stories, opinions, their conclusions, and remove the last false and overarching thoughts, ideas and opinions.
Now, in the silence of it, in the depth of consciousness, in pure knowledge, there is the readiness to realise momentously, to understand immediately.
And in the end there is still quietly thinking about it. It is an art that tends to forget — to think in peace and silence over a single sentence or thought, let it open in deeper meaning and understanding. With such a reflection can overcome the boundaries of ordinary thinking and logic and indeed discover unfamiliar.
There is no need to analyse anything, there is no need to disappear in it in any way. To keep, to be with it in peace and silence, and let its meaning to spread and grow. Then bring it back to the surface of consciousness and be in silence with it again. And so many times.
We had a lot of thoughts here. You can take a look at them again.

Further reading

Adyashanti. The Way of Liberation. A Practical Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment. Open Gate Sangha, 2012. ISBN: 978-1-937195-17-5. http://www.adyashanti.org/
Anthony Markwell. Truly Understanding the Teachings of the Buddha. A comprehensive guide to insight meditation. https://www.facebook.com/anthony.markwell.796
Buddhadāsa Bhikhu. Handbook for Mankind. Dhammadana Foundation, 2005. www.suanmokkh.org.
Buddhadāsa Bhikhu. No Religion. Buddhadāsa Foundation, 2005. www.suanmokkh.org.